While seniors represent about 14% of people with HIV, senior women represent 18%. One reason for the higher number of older women with HIV was found in a study recently published by Emory University . They surveyed 514 women over the age of 50, and found that their knowledge about transmission was poor. For example, approximately 50% of women believed that vasectomies and diaphragms prevent the spread of HIV. (these women are NOT at SexyAds)

Other reasons include the fact that many older women who have sex with men are also not using condoms, knowing they are past the point of having to worry about pregnancy. Women also erroneously think they can’t get HIV if they are not engaging in behaviors they deem as risky. The truth of the matter is this. HIV is a virus. It’s an opportunist. It does not care if you are male or female. It does not care who you have sex with, nor the numbers of people you have sex with. It certainly does not care about the color of your skin, your bank balance or your age.

HIV is primarily spread in two ways. First is though the sharing of contaminated intravenous drug equipment. Second, and more commonly, HIV is spread by unprotected sexual encounters. Women frequently are the receptive partners, and the receptive partners are more likely to become infected. Women who are post menopausal are at higher risk because of the changes in the vaginal tissue. With less estrogen to nourish the vagina, the tissue atrophies (becomes thin) and there is less lubrication. A woman can easily get tiny tears in her vaginal tissues, thus leaving an opening for virus to gain entry to her blood stream.

What’s a sexy older woman to do?

Make sure that you know your own HIV status. You can contact your health care provider, or (if you want anonymous testing) the local health department for testing. Know your partners history (this goes for both male AND female partners ladies!). Do they have a history of multiple partners and unprotected sexual encounters? Have they been tested? When? Did they get a follow up test at 6 months? What were the results?

Condoms and lubrication are essential. Use them not only on your partners body parts that may be entering you, but also on any toys you may be utilizing as well There are several online and confidential sources to purchase lubricants, condoms and gloves.

Limit your exposure when possible. Think twice if you are engaging in high risk behavior with a casual or new partner.

We know that sexual activity does not stop just because a person reaches a certain age. Let’s stay healthy so we can continue the horizontal hokey pokey til we drop. That’s what it’s all about, right? LOL

I was scanning ads this morning and I noticed there were more than 5 ads from men who seemed to be apologizing for the size of their penises.

“My dick is only 5 1/2″ long but it’s really fat to make up for its shortness,” is one I read. I just wanted to put my arms around him and tell him that as long as his dick is bigger than a champagne cork, it’s not about the size. Very few women (and none that I’ve met personally) have sex with a dick. It’s ALWAYS attached to a man. It’s how the man uses the dick, it’s what he says to make her feel sexy, it’s how he touches her and it’s probably a lot more things but the size of the penis is not the most important thing for most women.

I have never ever seen a woman say, “My pussy is really big and loose but I have a great personality that makes up for it,” or “My pussy is very very small so sex won’t be much fun with me.” I see women who are apologetic about the lack of boobage size or the extra padding on the backside. I’ve never seen a man say, “I’ve got a huge beer belly, but I’m a lot of fun.”

I’ve often wondered if women who require a man with a huge dick have very poor vaginal muscle control so a big dick feels better. To them I say, “get thee kegeling!” Don’t yell at me if I’m wrong. I’ve got one of those vagina things myself and size has never been as important as how sexy I feel when I’m with the guy it’s attached to.

Personally I wouldn’t want to know anything about the size of a man’s penis before he says hello to me. If I like him, there’s always time to learn about his penis and if I don’t like him, why bother?

Redhotandblue suggested this article by Johneen Manning for Today’s news. Gotta love someone who loves to cuddle.

Is love a biochemical by-product? Oxytocin explains the importance of foreplay and may even show that women in committed relationships have better sex!

Research suggests that if a love potion does in fact exist, the mammalian hormone called oxytocin is likely the key ingredient.

Oxytocin is a hormone produced naturally in the hypothalamus in the brain. Studies have shown that oxytocin is associated with our ability to mediate emotional experiences in close relationships and maintain healthy psychological boundaries.

In studies with non-human mammals, oxytocin has been shown to promote nest building and pup retrieval, acceptance of adopted offspring, and the formation of adult pair-bonds. This important hormone is naturally released in response to a variety of environmental stimuli including skin-to-skin contact, uterine or cervical stimulation during sex, nipple stimulation in lactating women, and as the result of a baby moving down the birth canal.

In humans, oxytocin stimulates milk ejection during lactation, uterine contraction during birth, and is released during sexual orgasm in both men and women.

Research has shown that women who were currently involved in a committed relationship experienced greater oxytocin swells in response to positive emotions than single women.

Oxytocin Loves Foreplay

Being touched (anywhere on the body) causes a rise in oxytocin levels, initiating a series of events that lead to biological and psychological arousal, including a rush of endorphins (the body’s natural pain
relievers) as well as a spike in testosterone levels (the hormone that kick-starts sex drive).

Oxytocin heightens that warm and fuzzy bonding feeling, increasing sexual receptiveness and intimacy. Considered by many to be the key lubricant in the machinery of sex, oxytocin also increases the desire to be touched further, reinforcing the cycle of sex hormone escalation.

Binghamton University psychology professor Diane Witt says that since the release of oxytocin can be classically conditioned, after repeatedly having sex with the same partner, just seeing that partner could release more oxytocin, making you want to be with that person all the more.

Oxytocin’s affect on the brain is greatly dependent on its interactions with sex hormones such as estrogen, progesterone, testosterone and corticosterone. However, its effectiveness as a the ‘cuddle hormone’ requires the presence of estrogen. This fact may partially explain some of the behavioral differences between the sexes when it comes to intimacy, the desire for cuddling, and even touch’s role in the ability to achieve orgasm, since women’s bodies produce vastly more estrogen than the male body.

Do Women In Committed Relationships Have Better Sex?

Research has shown that women who were currently involved in a committed relationship experienced greater oxytocin swells in response to positive emotions than single women, leading researchers to speculate that a close, regular relationship may influence the responsiveness of the hormone. So, do the math:

Oxytocin is produced as a result of touch.
Oxytocin causes feelings of intimacy and closeness
Oxytocin triggers powerful orgasms
Women in committed relationships experience enhanced oxytocin production

It does really work.

Kissing is optional, but what a pick up when the day is great, to make it greater. If you need a physical/mental boost during the day, this is perfect.

An Australian researcher has recently concluded a study of internet users from age 60 to 92. The participants were from Australia and the United States. She will present her results at The Australian Sociological Association conference in December.

Sue Malta says she wanted to examine whether technology was making a difference to how older people’s relationships developed and the longevity of those romances. She says the results overturn two stereotypes prevalent within our community: that older people are asexual and are not technology savvy.

“That old stereotype that you get to a certain age and you don’t want to do it any more is not true,” she said.

Online relationships between older people become sexually intimate faster and are of shorter duration. Many of the older women said the cyber romances suited their lifestyles because they “never wanted to live with anyone again”. They have no wish to become someone’s nursemaid and housekeeper because they’ve already done that.

Most felt cyber-flirting was fun, but a precursor to a sexual relationship, while very few participants approved of cyber-cheating.

Some of the participants had engaged in cybersex, with one older woman saying she would only have cybersex with someone she was not going to meet and all her cybersex encounters were with men much younger. To her they are casual sexual encounters all in the safety of her own home.

“A lot of the participants had health issues and found sex and intimacy was one of the best things for them and gave them increased vitality,” Malta says.

As one woman told her during an interviews, “I can hardly walk, but there is nothing like a romp in bed to make me feel alive”.

We could have told her all that, couldnt we? There are very few people at SexyAds who plan on giving up sex as they get older. Certainly not me.