I have a friend I’ll call Dave. That’s because his name IS Dave. He won’t mind me calling him out on this because we’re really good pals and he knows how I feel. He and his significant other Christy have been “going out” for 3 years. They don’t live together but I know she’d like to do that. Dave has a real problem with commitment. His parents divorced just before he turned 13 and it really upset him a lot.

In his mind if his parents who his considered to be perfect got a divorce, what chance has he got?

But three years? How long does it take for someone to make up his mind? If you’re in a similar situation to Dave, wake up and smell the coffee! If she’s been “the one” for the past 3 years, surely she’s a keeper and if she’s a keeper, commit to her.

Dave says he has in every way but words.

“I am still with her and I haven’t gone out with anyone else but her for 3 years, isn’t that enough?”

Uhhh.. no.

What if one day she decides she’s waited long enough and starts dating someone else? If you haven’t committed to her then maybe she thinks you are only holding on to her until someone better comes along. This is a tough one for most women to deal with. She’s wasting her best years on you and for what? Maybe nothing.

I know, I know, she’s having a good time. She’s also ready to put down roots and make a life with someone.

Who’s right? Probably they both are but Dave’s gonna lose a real sweetie in Christy because she’s at the end of the waiting line. Poor Dave might end up with only the dog for a cuddle.

Take a tip from Dave’s experience. Don’t lose what might be the best person for you. You’ll live the rest of your life in regret.

I get mail from men and women every month or so saying they met someone at SexyAds through an ad or blog and they’ve had a terrific date. They meet in a public place and the date lasts much longer than they anticipated because they just enjoyed being together. There’s usually a bit of touching and a kiss or hug at the end of the date.

Then it’s a wave goodbye without any mention of another date.

What happened?

You just didn’t click in a way that the other person is looking for. Dating is like a game of craps. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose but it’s never the fault of the dice.

When we’re dating we’re looking for someone to excite us or educate us or love us or need us or any number of emotions depending on where we are in life at the time. Not getting a 2nd date is not a judgement. You won’t like everyone you date and you won’t feel like you’re judging them when you don’t want to see them again.

Don’t beat yourself up over it. On your next first date, don’t invest a lot of energy expecting anything to happen. Hang loose and enjoy meeting someone new. No anticipation and no expectations. If you meet someone fantastic and a relationship grows, that’s fantastic, but if it doesn’t, you haven’t lost anything and you’ve had a good time out. Maybe he or she will end up a long term friend and nothing more. Nobody can have too many friends.

Remember, life’s too short to waste it feeling bad that someone didn’t call you.

Ok, I want to know where this advertisement is running. What country would put full on nudity on tv? Someone sent me this link and my eyes opened a bit widely, that’s for sure! Elave skin care products has nothing to hide and neither do the actors in this commercial!

I can’t post it here, nor can I post the nudie bits, but you can click the link and watch the commercial!

Elave Nudie Commercial

Here’s Leanne, our affiliate manager, admiring her handiwork. It would be much more impressive if there were actually some people on this gorgeous beach who’d see the domain name! Can’t fault her for trying something different.