If you are lacking in the fireworks department, you’ve got a brand new year to start over! Wave all the bad experiences goodbye and turn over a new leaf. If you haven’t tried an adult dating site and you’re looking for companionship or a relationship, I invite you to check out SexyAds.com. It’s not for kids and the average age of the members is 35. You won’t see sexy stuff unless you ask for it, so it’s safe to have a look.

Within minutes you could find yourself chatting with people from next door or from across the world. Liven up your life and meet new people. Online dating has gone mainstream and people around the world have accepted it as a legitimate way of meeting new friends.

Everyone knows the goal is to meet on an actual live dates where there is physical and verbal contact but meeting online makes it really easy – especially if you’re on the shy site. You deal with one person at a time and have plenty of time to think about what to say next, unlike meeting a stranger in person for the first time. You don’t have to worry about looks either. It’s the words that come across to show what kind of people you are, what values you have, what interests you share.

Don’t spend another year without a hottie in your life. I’m convinced there is someone special for everyone. Take charge of your life and make something wonderful happen this year.


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Since the birth of the world wide web, millions of people have met through dating sites. I remember when I met my husband, before the www was available in Orlando, everyone I knew thought I had taken leave of my senses when I told them I was flying to Australia to meet a man I’d met through a local bulletin board system newsgroup feed (that dates me, doesn’t i?)

The year after we met we started our dating website and we’ve watched how online dating has become a positive alternative for most everyone. It’s certainly not the only way to meet someone but I have to say it beats meeting a drunk in a bar hands down.

Sure there are some creepy people on the net. There are creepy people at the grocery store, the gas station and even at the library. Do they bother you? No, you ignore them and move on to people you feel comfortable around. Same thing works on a dating site. Meeting someone online is safe, practical and it allows you to find out a lot about someone before you get all geared up to meet someone new.

Online dating has become an alternative and practical way to meet people that we can potentially date. Remember when Mom said there were more fish in the sea? It’s true. You can sort through any number of potential mates and refine your choice again and again so you won’t get a lemon. Not only can you find someone to date, most sites give you plenty of ways to interact with friends from all over the world. You don’t have to get dressed to go out – you can laugh and play online every night. For free!

If you haven’t tried online dating – give it a go. Follow all the safety suggestions about meeting in a public place and you won’t have to worry. If you don’t like it, delete yourself from the dating site and go hang out at the pub. Be careful there too.


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D-A-T-E…this is probably one of the words that can cause anxiety, fear and excitement all at the same time from people re-entering the dating market. For many of us, life has been safe and secure with a permanent partner for years and then all of a sudden we’re single and alone. How do we get back into the game without feel (and acting) awkward?

The truth is, it’s not easy. The rules have changed since you first dated 5, 10, or even 20 years ago. No longer do men do all the chasing (and paying), no longer do you have to wait for a phone call — it’s all email and texting now. Fortunately, it’s not difficult to catch up. Tell yourself that your first 3 dates are all about market research. No stress, no strain – it’s not going to work out anyway. It could but that’s not your goal. Your goal is to go out and watch other people as well as your date. See what other people are doing and how they’re doing it.

It’s always exciting to be asked out on a date, especially if it’s someone you’d really like to get to know but what about the person doing the inviting? Every time an invitation is made there is an opportunity for rejection. So how do you cope and not chicken out? Do what salesmen do — chalk each one down to numbers. Every successful sales person knows that for every so many people they make one sale. So it’s all about numbers. If this one doesn’t accept, another will come along. I promise!

I don’t think many people go on a first date without some anxiety. I know I always did. A few butterflies to quiet down. I didn’t want to trip, I didn’t want to slob spaghetti sauce on my blouse and I didn’t want to look stupid. Don’t ask why those are my concerns, they just are. I’m sure you have things that come to mind before a first date too. I learned not to order spaghetti on a first date, not to wear shoes that didn’t fit well and to think before I spoke. And it worked!

You can make the first date anxiety proof. I could say try to keep cool but it’s better to be prepared and then there’s nothing to lose your cool over. If you know you have a date, make sure the clothes you’re going to wear are clean, ironed and ready to put on. Don’t wait til the last minute to find out a button is missing on your favorite shirt. Don’t wait til the last minute to get a reservation at your favorite place only to find out they’re fully booked.

Confidence is sexy — well prepared leaves you confident.


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