To Americans at home and around the world (like me), I hope you have a fantastic Thanksgiving Day holiday. I’m thankful for every one of you who visit Sexy Old Broad and especially thankful for those who leave me comments.

I’ll be celebrating in New Zealand where it’s a beautiful, cloudless summer day. It doesn’t feel much like the Thanksgivings I’m used to after growing up in Maine, but I’m grateful for every blessing I have.

If you’re alone for the holiday, don’t make it a big deal. Just think of it as just another day. If you lived in New Zealand it wouldn’t be Thanksgiving and life will go on remarkably well spending an ordinary Thursday.

How do you feel about sex personally? Is sex something that you approach in a casual way or do you need a deeper connection to have satisfying sexual realtions with another person? Would you consider a no-strings-attached relationship with someone?

All of these are heady questions and all would take a bit of soul searching to arrive at the right answer for you. There IS no right answer for everyone. People who want to make rules for other people regarding their sexuality are stepping into an area that they don’t belong.

A no-strings-attached relationship is one where both parties want to remain friends and occasionally get it on. Some have these partnerships when they are between relationships and some make use of a friend on the side while in a relationship.

If sex always means love and commitment to you, being friends with benefits is not going to work for you. If sex can be a more casual thing to you, then I think it’s possible that you can get together with a friend and agree to do that and not get too emotionally tied up.

An acquaintance of mine swears by a no strings attached friendship. She says when she’s single, this sort of “backup” helped her make better choices in relationships. She wasn’t choosing someone because she was horny. It would never be for me because sex, love and commitment go together in my book of life.

Being single and alone for the holidays is really difficult for a lot of people. Some of them tell me that they feel “broken” because they aren’t partnered when everyone else around is. The truth is that not all people are in a partnership or marriage. This is a myth that we keep repeating to ourselves until we believe it as fact.

These holidays are just another day of the year until you put value and emphasis on that particular day. When I was a kid there was the old joke the teachers told us nearly every year, “Do they have 4th of July in England?” We all quickly said, “Nooooo.” Well of course they do, it comes after the 3rd and before the 5th of July. It’s not a holiday for them and they don’t get one bit upset that they’re alone on that day.

Thinking again about all those people who are in relationships and you’re not — how many of them are truly happier than you are? Would you want to be a part of some of those partnerships from hell? I doubt it. Your life might not be perfect but it’s not more or less satisfying just because you’re single.

I want to leave you with this thought. The holiday is just one day. Your singleness is temporary. The weather is temporary. Everything is temporary. So treat yourself to something decadent, read a book, watch a movie, volunteer at a food kitchen or decide to catch up on some much needed sleep.

Recently we did a quick poll to find out what age women felt sexiest. We expected to get 19 or 22 but it turns out that the mid-thirties is where it’s at. Women are getting established in their careers, they have come to terms with their bodies and they’ve decided what they want out of life.

Interestingly, the 2nd best age was 54. The comments for that were along the lines of not much worry about getting pregnant, able to tell a man what turns her on and most importantly that she is worthy of every minute a man spends pleasuring her body.

I don’t think there was one year that had no ticks in the box, so that goes to show that a woman can feel sexy at any time in her life. She just needs to put herself as a priority more often. When she does that, everything else falls into place.