So you’ve been chatting with someone you met online. You find yourself attracted to them and you seem to have great chemistry so you both decide to take things to the next step and meet for drinks, dinner or coffee. One great advantage to meeting someone from the internet is the ability to take your time and find out everything you need to know about them before deciding if they are worth meeting face to face.
I know it may seem like a downer to ask questions of someone you click with. The questions may not seem very sexy and they could possibly make them think you’ve already lost their trust or are suspicious of their intentions. The most important thing in life is your health and safety so don’t be afraid to protect yourself.
My list of recommended issues/questions to get out of the way before meeting:
1. Have you recently been test for STD’s?
Anyone can get a sexual transmitted disease. It doesn’t matter how sweet and innocent they claim to be, male or female, regardless of age, location, religion or otherwise. While it doesn’t make someone a bad person because they have or have had an STD, you certainly don’t want to catch something because your mate was dishonest with you or didn’t know they had an STD because they haven’t been tested. If the person you have been chatting with gets defensive about getting tested or refuses to do it I would end your discussions right there.
2. Do you have an acciction/substance abuse problem?
You don’t have to come right out and ask that very question, but you can ask about their drinking habits and if they use any recreational drugs and how often. Many people have substance abuse problems to one degree or another. Some hide their addictions and finding out someone has an addiction can be a very challenging issue in a relationship that you should be prepared to understand.
3. Have you cheated on any of your ex boyfriends/girlfriends?
While it’s true that many people have cheated on their ex’s, not everyone has and someone who has cheated in the past is definately more likely to do it again as it is a reflection on a person’s character. Don’t be afraid to ask if they have ever been unfaithful. If they admit it then at least you know they are honest:)
4. Do you have children?
This may seem obvious, but if you don’t ask they might not tell you for fear you will become disinterested in moving forward. Ask if they have been married and if they have children.
5. Have you ever had a same sex relationship or sexual encounter?
I know this might be an uncomfortable conversation to have, but it will be one of the most rewarding things to find out sooner than later. While most women would think this would be a bonus to know that his girlfriend/wife is interested in women sexually, this may not always be the case. Far more men that most people realize have had same sex encounters or desire to and should not be ashamed to admit it. The same goes for women.
Stay safe out there!
What’s more important in our quest for sexual intimacy – the journey or the destination? When we start dating someone, I know that lust kicks in pretty quickly and we can’t deny human nature. I think some people aren’t denying anything. 
