Okay, I don’t get it. I have always assumed that the younger generations were better educated than I was. They’ve had access to heaps of things that didn’t exist when I was going to school and college. So why are so many people 18-25 not using safe sex?

I read articles about this and I wonder how they could ignore all the information presented to them by the media and still have sex without condoms. I worry about people of any age having sex without condoms but the young ones are far more likely to have unprotected sex than people in my generation.

Condoms used properly can keep us from getting herpes, genital warts, gonorrhoea, syphilis, chlamydia and AIDS so why wouldn’t someone use one? I know someone is going to say that the feeling isn’t the same. Feeling dead isn’t too good either, pal. While unprotected sex is a big problem for men it’s often more serious for women. Ladies, if you refuse to have sex without a condom, guys will wear one.

A lot of men can get frustrated when they have trouble getting their wife or partner in the mood for sexual intimacy. Do men really have stronger sex drives than women? Yes, they do. Most men seem to be able to be aroused at the peek of a boob through a sleeveless blouse. Sadly, most women aren’t that easily turned on.

Women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. We are more easily stimulated when we feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a woman. Of course every relationship is different but what we see in blogs and ads and forum posts, it appears that quite a lot of men have trouble getting their lover/spouse interested in sex when they want it.

Here are some ideas to help men to become closer and more intimate so their sex lives can be healthy and satisfying for both partners.

* Show appreciation – be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her. Notice when she’s done something for you. Remember that she didn’t sign on to be your maid and maybe you should let her know that her attention to your stuff is appreciated.

* Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, – noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.

* Let her know that you desire her – be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

* Take some notice of the wonderful traits she has that you love her for – and share what you notice with her.

* Compliment her – what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy. Tell her she’s sexy.

* Tell her how important she is to you – it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.

* Let her know she is the most important person in your life – women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.

* Be affectionate – in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive. It will tell her that she’s important to you in other ways than sexual.

These suggestions are not ways to get in her pants. Women know when you’re doing that. These are ideas to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a spicier sex life. Bless you wife/partner and she will want to bless you too.

I say again that for me, the sexiest man on the planet is the one helping with the dishes or sweeping the patio or feeding the cats. It means that these jobs aren’t mine because I have a set of tits. These are our chores because we share this space together.

I know that some of you will say that you’re doing all these things and you’re still not getting sex. If that’s the case, I’m afraid there’s a lot more wrong with your relationship than not getting enough sex.

So often we hear about the size of a man’s penis and whether big is better. Some women are convinced that unless they have a big penis inside them, they haven’t had good sex. Many other women say it’s not the size but the experience that makes all the difference to them. Remember this “It’s not the size of the organ, it’s the cathedral it plays in”.

This was written in the forum a while back and I think it’s still relevant.

Let’s talk about the size of a woman’s vagina.

The Kama Sutra (an ancient Indian book about sex) uses three terms to describe the size of women’s vagina. The three terms are rather like simplifying a bell curve, one that is divided into only three parts, rather than a smooth infinite curve like we discussed above. The Kama Sutra uses the terms “Rabbit,” “Doe,” and “Elephant” to describe the range of sizes of a women’s vagina. Obviously a woman with a vagina the size of a rabbit would have a small and probably shallow vagina. A woman with a vagina the size of a doe (a female deer) would have a medium size, and a woman labeled an elephant would have a deep and probably loose vagina.

So let’s say that Mr Right marries Ms Cute. And let’s say that Mr Right has a penis that is of average size. But lets say that Ms Cute has a vagina that is best described as an elephant vagina. Obviously those relative sizes are not the most opportune fit. Ms Cute’s vagina on the other hand could easily accommodate a very large penis. She may be what you currently hear described as a “Size Queen.” In other words, her vagina requires a larger penis to feel stimulated. That is not a statement about the size or adequacy of her husband’s penis so much as it is a statement about the size of her vagina.

Lets say on the other hand that same Mr Right marries Ms Tiny, who has a tiny vaginy. Mr Right would not be able to put his whole penis inside her without causing her discomfort and quite likely bladder infections.

My point is this, you CANNOT talk about the “inadequate” size of a man’s penis without also objectively describing the size of the woman’s vagina. Just as penises come in all sizes and girths, so do vaginas.

Players, are all around, we’ve all seen them but too often it’s after we’ve fallen into the trap of no escape. How can you be sure you’re not fooled by someone who’s only in it for a game? Now I know that there are players on both sides and there are even some couples who are players. Before you all start yelling at me while I’m cleaning and not looking, we get more complaints from women about guys not being sincere than we do from men about women.

No nerves. Most people meeting for a first date tend to be a bit nervous or awkward but the player is always in control. He has an air of confidence, he’ll look you in the eye and he’ll give you a prize winning smile. Who wouldn’t swoon over that? You won’t because he’s not sincere. You’re a notch in his belt and once he knows you’ve fallen for him, he’s off to his next conquest.

Elaborate, romantic dates. With a player, it’s performance dating all the way. This guy knows what women will fall for, that’s why Internet scammers are so successful. The player will plan events that some people only dream about, but as soon as you’re hooked, he’s off to his next “love”.

Do you bungee jump? The player is always looking for thrills, always ripping the lid off his adrenaline jar. That’s why you’re so interesting at first. For him, it’s the thrill of the chase and once he’s reached the summit, your player will find you boring.

Online players. We’ve all heard about the guy who sweeps you off your feet through email or chat. He seems just perfect. Weeks go by and finally you say those 3 little words and tell him you would like to meet him. He tells you sure thing, he can’t wait to touch you, to hold you and more. The date comes and just before he’s to arrive, there’s a problem. He’s so sorry but he can’t make it, but it will be soon. Another date is set and another disappointment. You keep on waiting because he is so caring and romantic online, you can’t imagine that he’s just getting his kicks online and has no intention of meeting you. Is he married? Not all online players are married but many are.

Always stick with a nice guy. He might be a bit awkward at first but he’s friendly, caring and he remembers things you’ve said or important dates. He shows up when he says he will. He isn’t always interested in what will make him happy. A nice guy has friends and he can mingle in a group of people who are more or less accomplished than he is. He fits in wherever he goes. He’s not afraid to say I love you when it’s time and when it’s time he says it enough to make you feel terrific. Finally, a nice guy treats his momma right. In fact, most of the time he likes everyone in his family. A nice guy has been brought up to have a good set of values. You can trust a nice guy.