From the TV show of the same name come these really good tips. I think no matter what size a woman is, there are always bits she wished were bigger, smaller or shaped differently.

Stage 1: Face Your Fears
Take your clothes off in front of a mirror and have a long hard look at yourself
For many of our ladies, taking their clothes off in front of anyone had became a massive ordeal. Stripping off in front of a mirror and taking a good hard look at yourself in the first step to facing your fears and building up your confidence.

Stage 2: Change Your Self-Perception
You’re not as big as you think you are
The media bombard us all with unrealistic airbrushed images of women every day. The magazine images of surgically enhanced women aren’t very realistic but these images portray women as beautiful and successful so it’s hard for ordinary women not to want to be and look like them. However, most normal women look well, normal but those photos can make us feel negatively about our bodies and encourage our low self esteem.

So, the second stage of looking good naked is to start waking up to the way the media works and stop comparing these images to the way you look. Wake up to the fact that you actually look pretty OK, that you aren’t as big as you think you are AND look at all the women around you — I bet most of them are the same as you.

Stage 3: See Yourself As Others See You
Learn to take compliments and focus on the positive rather than the negative
The third stage is to start focusing on the positive rather than the negative aspects of your body. Do not dismiss compliments. Hold on to all the nice things people say and ignore anything negative that might come your way.

Stage 4: Work Your Body
Wear clothes that make you look and feel good
Your clothes can have a big impact on the way you feel about yourself. Wearing clothes that flatter your shape and emphasize the best bits of your body is the best way to feel and look good. Underwear is also key. Old grey underwear can only make you feel old and grey. Structured underwear will give you more shape with your clothes on. Sexy underwear will give you a boost when your clothes have to come off.

Stage 5: Respect Yourself
Look after yourself
Your lifestyle does matter and it does effect the way your look and feel about yourself. A good healthy lifestyle will pay dividends. You will feel better but the pay off is that you will look better too.

Stage 6: Beauty Cheats
Looking good naked
What ever your size and shape feeling confident is key to looking good — whether your clothes are on or off. So now you are feeling on top of the world it’s time to start taking advantage of all the beauty treatments and products out there. Follow these rules on a weekly basis and we guarantee you will look good in the buff:

A difficult decision when you’re dating someone (or a few someone’s) is how to approach Christmas and gift giving. At this time of year I get more than a few emails asking for advice about how much is enough? What messages are you sending if you spend extravagantly on somone or buy only a card? I agree that doing it right can be a daunting task because the reality is, many people will look at the gift you give as indication of how serious you consider the relationship to be.

My suggestion to men is always the same. Go for the romantic. Choose something that will remind her of what she means to you. The best gift that Jayce ever gave me was for my birthday while we were still in the long distance relationship phase. We’d met in person the month before and we were madly in love. He copied every email we’d ever sent to each other to a floppy disk (who has got one of those now?) and wrapped them up in a pink ribbon and mailed them to me with a really sweet card. It cost him nothing and nearly 17 years later I still remember it as the best gift because he showed how much he valued what we’d said to each other. The first were getting to know each other emails and then they showed how things progressed between us.

For women who are in a long distance relationship I also have one suggestion. Buy some sexy underwear and put it on and take photographs of yourself. Wrap up the photos AND the underwear in a pretty package. *Maybe* there would be a man who wouldn’t appreciate this gift but I haven’t met him yet!

Your gift should send the proper message. If you think this person is the real deal and you want this relationship to go far – get the romance going. Guys, women don’t want your worn undies – we won’t be impressed that you’ve sent us your laundry. Ladies, most men don’t want a stuffed bear holding a heart.

What suggestions do you have for people who are struggling to get the right gift?

Carrie in the TV show Sex and the City asks, “Why shouldn’t women enjoy sex like a man?” With the rise of equality between men and women, is it possible for women to have sex like a man purely for enjoyment with no emotional ties or commitment?

If you’re a woman, can you do it? The reality is that some women can but many women can’t. Is having sex like a man what women should aspire to? While some women can have an orgasm with a total stranger, the lots of women need to feel something in order to reach orgasm. Men will never say, “Did the past 5 hours mean nothing to you?” but some women will say it and others will feel it.

In women, orgasm releases a flood of oxytocin, also referred to as the cuddle hormone and it also helps women feel a sense of attachment. That’s why some women feel regret the following day because the sexual memory is hollow. There is a group of researchers who believe that a woman releases less oxytocin if she has multiple sex partners. That would explain why some women have no issues with casual sex. This has not been scientifically proven.

Masters and Johnson published their classic book, “Human Sexual Response,” way back in 1966. In it they state that sexual response for both men and women consist of four stages: arousal, plateau, orgasm, and resolution (the time where many men think job’s done and roll over and start snoring). Since that time, sex researchers have concluded that the sexes do not have the same four stages and that men and women are more different than they are the same – sexually speaking.

The current view is that women put much more emphasis on emotional intimacy and relationship satisfaction resulting in a much more complex sexual response. Her relationship satisfaction, her self-esteem as well as any previous sexual experiences with this person can contribute to the success or problems in a long-term committed relationship. A woman’s lack self-esteem and perceived value to her partner can result in her not wanting sex at all.

Back to sex like a man – it’s not that most women should or should not have sex like a man – the question should be regardless of how much she wants to, will a woman’s factory settings allow her to enjoy sex like a man at all?

Sexy talk is probably the simplest and easiest way to take your lovemaking up several notches. It can range from very polite sayings like the prhase above to the other end of the spectrum which might make a hooker blush. Are there phrases that get YOU going when you hear them?

How about some of these ? Any of them hit a high note with you?

I love the way you kiss me…especially when you kiss me there!
I want to get naked with you right now.
Say my name when you do that!
I love you so much. Can you feel it?
Do you like the way that feels?
I love feeling your strong arms when you’re on top of me.
Use your mouth on me.
I love the things you do with your tongue.
You’re so damn gorgeous.
What’s that thing you do with your hand? I adore that!
Want to see what I really want? Come closer…
Strip for me, honey. Slow. I want to savor every inch of you.
Do you like the way that looks?
I’m going to control you tonight.
Use me as your toy.
Tell me what you want.
I’ll do anything for a lover like you…anything at all.
You’re the best lover I have ever had.
This is going to be the dirtiest night of your life.
Show me what you can do. I know you’re man enough!
You can have me any way you want.
Look, – handcuffs! You’re mine now
Don’t stop, harder!
You’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.
It drives me crazy when you look at me that way.
You know what I want. Give it to me.
I want you so bad – can you feel how much?
Just lie back and let me make you come.
You like that, don’t you? You like it when your woman does that to you?
Look how ready I am. Don’t you want to put your dick in there?
I adore how naughty you are.
You taste so good.
Come over here and ride me hard.
No one has ever made me come as hard as you can.
You make me so damn horny, baby!
I want to feel those sweet lips all over me.
Fuck me, honey. Right now.
I’m going to lick you and suck you until you come.
Want to make me scream? I’ll bet you can.
Get over here, big boy. Show me what you’re packing.
I love it when you nibble on my nipples.
Do that some more.
Your wish is my command.
Should I tie you up and make you take it, or are you going to be good?
Don’t you dare come until I say you can.
I love how big your cock gets when I talk to you like this.
Fuck me with your big, delicious dick.
How deep can you go? Let’s find out.
Lick every inch of me.
Only question is…where do you want to come?
How do you want me? On my knees? On my back? You choose.
Make me scream with that big dick of yours.
I’m going to suck you like a lollipop.
You give it to me better than anyone else ever could.
Do you like the way I fuck you, baby? Tell me.
Give me that big, fat baby-maker. You know what I want!
I’m going to do things to you that you’ve only fantasized about.
Give me that come, honey.
I want it in my mouth.
I want it all over me. Cover me with it.
Call me names. I love it when you call me your whore.
You can fuck harder than that. Give me everything you’ve got!
Make me scream like the naughty little slut I am.
Do you like it when I make you taste me?
I love sucking your rock-hard cock.
Tell me what you’re doing. I want to hear the words.
Touch yourself. Let me watch you.
Can you see what you’re doing to me?
Want a sex slave for the night? I’m yours!
Let’s see how many times I can make you come. Want to place bets?
Tell me your most secret fantasy.
Do you like knowing you’re the only one who fucks me?
How dirty can you get? How nasty are you?
Oh, yeah, baby…that’s how I like to see it.
Watch me touch myself. I love it when you watch.
I want you to come in my mouth.
Shoot it down my throat.
You want to feel me come? Touch me right there – right now!
Tell me when, baby. I’ll come with you.
How do I taste?
For the next hour, you’re my personal sex toy.
Pound me with that hard, fat cock!
Better be careful…if you don’t do what I tell you, I might stop.
What do you want tonight? The French Maid? The Hooker? The Schoolgirl?
Pretend you’re a porn star. Fuck me like one!
I bet you would like to do this in public. Admit it.
Think I can swallow your whole cock? Let’s find out.
I’m going to make you come until it hurts.
Play with my pussy.
Oh, God…that thing with your tongue. Do that again!
I love the way it sounds when you fuck me so hard. Hear it?
Tell me what you see. Describe it to me.
You like it when I spread my legs and take you in?
Come on, badass – show me how big you really are!
You can have any hole you want. Which one will it be?
Do you want more? Take it!
Maybe you should spank me – I’ve been very, very bad.
Show me how a real man fucks.
Can you come again? I want some more.
I love getting dirty and naughty with you.