Am I as good as the ex?
Whenever we hook up with someone who’s had a long standing relationship with another person, don’t we always wonder how we compare? I know I did when I first met the love of my life. She was more slender than I was, she really ruled the roost, she did all sorts of things that just aren’t “me”. I suppose it was normal to wonder how I’d compare to her, after all they’d been together for 20 years. Part of me didn’t want to know and part of me was very curious.
After the first year, I never thought about it again until a friend of mine who’s starting a new relationship with a guy who’s separated started wondering the same thing.
The truth is, it doesn’t freakin matter what the ex did, or how they look, or how good they were in bed, or how well they cut the grass, or cooked a steak. It just doesn’t matter. If it did, that’s where your partner would still be, right? They left that relationship because of problems between the two of them that they couldn’t resolve and then decided there wasn’t enough love left to bother solving the problems.
So stop trying to measure up to what kind of person you think they are. Your sweetie doesn’t care. He or she chose you above all others and they’re with you because they’re happy. That should be enough.
I couldn’t agree more. You never should care what the ex did because of one key word “EX”