Another loony for the bin
A few months ago we received a complaint from a man who joined SexyAds.com seeking a crossdresser. (I can’t make up stories better than the real thing.) The guy is married but would like a little on the side, according to the ad he placed. We do not censor any ads other than to delete anyone posting anything illegal and we remove personally identifying information. If someone wants to be stupid, they have a right to be we figure. Anyway, on to the man’s complaint.
He posted his ad listing specifically what he was looking for and he attached 11 photos to his profile. He had listed his locality near him but not in his town because he needed to be discreet but it wasn’t more than 10 miles away. (So WHY did he attach 11 photos for everyone to see? He could have made them by invitation only.)
His complaint? He said he was in a miserable mess and it was all our fault. He expected privacy on a site like ours and a friend of his wife saw his photo and told her about it. The wife created a membership as a cross dresser and played him for a few weeks and then agreed to meet him. You can imagine the rest. She did meet him along with her private investigator and ended up suing him for divorce. I’m the queen of online dating but even I couldn’t help him out of that one.
Let this be a lesson to anyone considering cheating. If you are unhappy in your relationship, do something about it. Work to make it better, get a trial separation to see if you miss each other, end the relationship or stay where you are and accept that it’s not going to get any better. If you do decide to “get a little on the side” like this guy did, don’t be stupid. Don’t post identifying photos or write your online profile so that anyone could identify you with just a bit of effort.
I read Craigslist now and then. At one time I had met a guy through the list and emailed back and forth awhile. Never go to the stage of actually meeting for coffee. Something always seemed to come up. Anyway, he was going through some trouble, looking for a job, etc. He suddenly stopped emailing me back. I worried, thinking so many things could have happened. I had really felt we had connected so did not see how he could send an email saying he would send me an email that night and then… nothing.
It was just over a year later that I was reading Craigslist and saw him posting there, looking for someone else. There was no way it could not be him. I sent an email, trying not to be too peeved off. It was him. He said he didn’t know why he posted that ad… things are still not going well for him and he really isn’t ready to meet someone… blab blab blab…. So I let it go, thinking that at least now I know he wasn’t hit by a bus. He had also said how much he missed me and was glad he met me and would keep in touch etc.
Several months later I saw him posting again, almost the same personal ad. This time I was angry. How could he be such a mind f**k. Obviously he was not really looking to meet anyone, no matter what he wrote in his ad or had told me. That time he said he really did want to get together with me and I was the best thing that had happened to him….. I wrote back and said that he was stringing me along. He wrote back about what a bitch I am and how I am always just thinking of myself.
I wrote back and said he was wrong. I was the one who kept writing and trying to find him when he left me thinking he was dead (hit by a bus) for over a year. He admitted he was offbase. Then asked if we could get together, if I could go back to being his friend and maybe more. I wrote back and said no. I asked him if he would put more time into this if he were me. He admitted he would not. I never wrote back again, never checked Craigslist again and I lost pretty much all the faith and trust I ever had in men in general.
A long post for a comment. But, just makes me laugh even though it still makes me peeved, to read about men like this. Not only are they stupid but so very self involved. So absorbed in what they want they don’t think anyone else matters. Who would want any kind of a relationship with a man like that? It’s not a man at all, just a walking penis.
I totally agree with you when you said, “If you are unhappy in your relationship, do something about it. Work to make it better.” I am one who believe in making things happened in relationship. How can it possibly get better without any effort.
Then again, it might not be the only reason that people are considering to cheat. Some people are just …. hmm couldn’t find the right word to use.
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The Sexy Old Broad pretty much covered the lunacy of what the married guy did. He got what he deserved for cheating and being stupid. What really burns me is that he was dishonest to those looking for someone on the internet. As someone who looks for dates via online it is upsetting to discover someone is married and has lied about it. Even those wanting less traditional relationships do not want to hurt an unsuspecting third party. There are cheater web sites and some people who don’t care, but put it in your ad.