Are you hitting the dating target?
I received an email from a woman at our dating website yesterday that really made me scratch my head. The woman is in her early to mid 40s and I think she’s quite a looker. She’s got a gallery of great photos and none of them are showing anything other than a great shape. No naughty bits, no boobage – nothing that you couldn’t show your granny. I checked the mail logs and she’s answered a lot of mail, so she is seriously looking for a new partner. She wrote to say that she was considering leaving over a comment she received on her profile.
“You’ve got great udders, babe”
I suggested that she blacklist the guy and he could no longer view her profile or contact her again and that SexyAds, just as everywhere else in the world, had a few people without much tact.
This brings me to my point for today. Obviously this guy was looking for a new partner for something or he wouldn’t have taken the time to send the note to her. Was he hitting the target? Absolutely not!
It’s not just men who miss the point sometimes but with just a bit of effort, you can target the person you want to meet and make it all happen. If you think about the goal and what you want to happen, then treat the other person as if they were already in your life. Would you say inappropriate things to a woman or man you just met at a party? Of course not. So can you honestly say that you would try it on via the net because you’re anonymous? If yes, you’re missing the target!
Adult dating isn’t difficult if you remember that the people on every site are real people with real emotions and they’ll judge you for what you’re writing to them. Everyone likes to get kinky from time to time (or more often!) but few people (no people?) like to feel like a piece of meat just because they admit to enjoying sex, passion and intimacy.
Til next time – stay sexy!
Being a single female, I’ve tried several of the online dating sites. I haven’t had any luck though. It seems like a lot of the guys that email me are looking for something different (and shorter termed) then I am. Hopefully someday my luck will change.
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Great tips.
Seriously I have written enough about the wrong things guys do in the first 30 minutes of meeting a desired partner.
What is it with the boobs?
A question I am always asked.
It is hard for me to answer because I do sport my own. I am not of the male gender.
I do try to put it in a perspective of enjoying a guys smile or back.
Although do women drool as quickly and as out of control as men?
I have to say that men have the higher number there.
I have been told when I have approached men with the ” What is it with boobs?” question that they are the first thing sen on a woman as they are protrusions…hmmm..ok I can but that for a second…then what about the next 59 seconds of that frozen stare and dumbfounded look that accompanies the first second?
Just curious!
All in all guys…they will not run away if you take your eyes off of them.
She will though if you don’t!!
Have a nice day!
~D~
April, I found my man through a personal ad on the net so it’s certainly doable. I’m a BBW too. There are heaps of men seeking a woman with curves. You just need to make sure that you explain in your profile just what you’re looking for.
If it’s a long term relationship, spell it out up front with a statement like, “I don’t do casual sex and I don’t fool around with married men and now that that’s out of the way, here’s what I AM looking for” It seems to work for most but there will always be some who just don’t read. It comes from only looking at the pictures in Playboy I think, regardless how many say they read the articles.
April, you made me laugh. I’ve always been a bit on the over endowed side of things and spent most of my young adult life wishing that people knew I had eyes.
Men ARE visual and if you give them even the slightest peek in a photo, boobage is all they think about. LOL
You gals are making me blush…it’s a good thing you can’t peek through my monitor…you’d see my red face!
Great blog BTW!