Can you masturbate too much?
Can someone truly masturbate too much? Is five times a day too much? Six, ten? Orgasms are such a wonderful thing, why shouldn’t we experience as many of them as we can? I myself am quite fond of a mind blowing orgasm…I certainly don’t want to deny myself of that gorgeous release from time to time.
But what about masturbation addiction? What about those people who have a compulsive need to masturbate every waking moment?
The high from masturbation addiction comes from the flood of chemicals that are released into the brain during orgasm. As the brain begins to crave this high, the addict trains himself to climax quicker and more often. In addition, the addict becomes accustomed to the sensations of masturbation, sometimes to the point that “normal” sexual activity is not satisfying.
Woody Allen had a line in one of his movies: “I’m good at sex; I practice a lot when I’m alone.” While that may come across as a funny line, it underscores the physical problem with masturbation addiction. A masturbation addict becomes accomplished at short, intense activity with a quick climax. Unfortunately, this isn’t very satisfying to a spouse in a sexual relationship.
Sex addiction is a symptom of an unhealthy approach toward relationships. The first step toward a healthy relationship is honesty. When you are honest with someone you show him or her you care about them. In effect you say,
“I love you so much I want you to know about me. I want you to see the good in me so that you can enjoy it and share in it. I won’t hide my flaws because if I deceive you now, you will be hurt even worse later on by my bad side.”
“If I tell you the truth, whatever problems we have, we can probably work out.”
“I’d rather have an honest relationship with you built through hard work than one hastily thrown together on lies and illusions that will not stand the test of time.”
Masturbation addiction can be cured just like overeating can be cured and alcoholism can be cured. So if you’re suffering under tremendous guilt because masturbation is causing problems in your life or your relationships, there is help out there.
In life, I have learned, *Too much of anything is good for nothing*. Some say, moderation is perfection. To me, masturbation in the sense of exploring self, is to be done, when need to be done, in accordance to what is apt for self. Apply self-control. Be wise.
I have that same statue!
Oh yeah, we are talking about masturbation.
Until you mentioned,”A masturbation addict becomes accomplished at short, intense activity with a quick climax. Unfortunately, this isn’t very satisfying to a spouse in a sexual relationship.” I had not thought of masturbation as a problem unless of course it is conducted in inappropriate areas or as a form of exposure, i.e. lewd activity.
This is a very informative post as it allowed me to see this addiction as a holistic enterprise affecting relationships and the self-esteem of the partners involved!
Adrienne Zurub
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‘Notes From the Mothership The Naked Invisibles’
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masturbation~ seems to be normal for everyone
I agree, and am glad to hear a sensible comment on the subject, rather than the typical “don’t hold back, more, more, more” propaganda that usually populates most blogs. I realized a while back that masturbation is all about ME. It is fundamentally selfish, and while that may have it’s place once in a while, selfish is corrosive to love which is defined as self-less.
Nice post!
Hello all!
I love masturbation. I mean, who doesn’t?
It a mechanical-bio-physical-process that all humans have to use as a secondary support in case we don’t obtain partners with which to procreate.
There are many who are either sexually obsessed or just passing time, or using it as a means of relief to forget the reality of their social agenda.
But then, at the end of the day, there is only one true purpose of masturbating, and that is the pleasure of release…
Nothing in terms of drugs or physical acts (apart from love making) can create a similar state of mind and body…
Speaking as a guy, at the point of climax you feel listless, lethargic, and tired… but the sensation is such that for guys, it can alleviate violent tendancies, you have a calmer attitude, your mind is relaxed, you feel at peace, you no longer have that burning incessant desire to focus on the female form.
I suppose there are many benefits, but there is a downside. A very dangerous one.
Many of todays average ‘Joe’ 13-25yr olds is sat at home masturbating furiously whilst at school/college/work the girls are all chasing after the popular guys. They get left to chase after women who are not suitable. Ultimately resulting in bad relationships.
Maybe.
You see then there are those who just use it as a morning glory aid, a coffee break ’self solution’, that after dinner ‘whack’. Perhaps the ‘low five’ to help you go to sleep.
Whatever the reason, there are many purposes to the wank.
You need it to release the build up of tension.
Is there a dark side to masturbating?
Again maybe. Some people end up on a ramp to fulfill their inner darker desires. Gradually being piqued only by things that are unnatural.
Paedofilia/bestiality etc.
This in turn affects social behaviour
It affects the males ability to approach women and start a normal discourse (as opposed to thinking constantly about intercourse)i.e. conversation, being able to handle a rejection.
But then maybe these guys or gals are the ones that have been rejected, and are now at home, getting fat from over eating and all they have in terms of a relationship is the image of some perfect figure angel face taking a massive cock…. pardon the expression but i’m sure all the guys will understand my perspective.
You know, the real funny thing is, the internet puts you more in contact with the opposite sex, but we still as humans look for the easy way in all things. And in the case of relationship maintainence, well a girl/boyfriend costs money, i suppose all you need do is to give your hands a wash and scrub everynow and again. Nothing is better than getting something for free…
Womankind no longer requires man.
Females can procreate without the aid of a man.
We are slowly wanking ourselves into a paradox…
and if you believe that, then you will probably looking for a partner right now!!
Masturbation is provided as a method to initiate the love making, not provide the total solution!
All animals need sex. Its the one thing that makes us human. That desire to feel loved and to love….
5-10 times a day is rediculous
Not sure.. I think this meant for guys
well2..too much will cause no good..it will effect on your knee..
Wonderful article…Too much of anything is a bad thing. I’m going to have to monitor my own masterbating practises, I may have an addiction!!
hahahahaha
I jack it at least 2x a day, and I get sexed up 3x a week. Some of us just want to spread the seed…
Oh yeah, and if you’re trying to climax asap, you have a philosphical problem. Sort out your shit.
It’s the journey, not the destination.
eeemmm..not just for gays even for gals …some times we need for a change but not every day…real sex with partner more pleasure
anyways
masterbating is a bit to much if you do it 10 a day . 1-2 is ok but thats rediculus
I think self-pleasure is a wonderful wonderful thing. It’s a great way of getting to know your body. I think girls especially should be taught this.
Is 5 times a day too much? Well, I can only speak for myself. For me, it would be. I used to masturbate a lot more when I was younger, several times a day. But now, maybe a couple times a week, more just before my period for some reason
And I agree: on the flip side, too much of a good thing can have a negative effect on you and your partner. But with any addiction, it can be overcome in a loving relationship.
We need more talk not just about the pleasures, but the downside, the realism of this, so thank you for opening it up.
take care…