Confidence is the key
I see so many men and women complaining that they are alone and never get lucky finding someone to love. I want to smack the crap out of people when they say that. They’re setting themselves up for failure with an attitude like that. If you think there’s nobody for you, you’re going to be right on the money.
I love this poem about life that I think puts it all into perspective. If you don’t ask for what you want and you settle for what you get, then don’t complain. If you want someone new in your life, he or she is there for you, you just have to have confidence and belief in yourself that you’re desirable and worthy of being loved.
“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.
“For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
“I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”
Jessie Belle Rittenhouse
Close your eyes and can you see yourself with someone new? Once you can do that, you’ve got the desire and it will happen. I don’t know how or where but I do know that the right person will come into your life.
So true. It takes confidence to get what you want in life. If you don’t think you’re worth it, then why the hell should your potential significant other?
Perhaps they are just being picky.
I understand the basic concept, and think there’s some validity in the basic idea that you can’t love others if you don’t love yourself, but life is much more complicated than such a simple aphorism as “just have confidence.” It’s also impossible to disprove, as if the individual doesn’t succeed than they just didn’t have confidence “enough.” I think we are shaped by the world more than we shape it. Getting into a relationship may be easy, but as Haney says above, some may be looking for something much deeper. Of course, in a society so obsessed with the superficial and materialistic, that may no longer be possible.
I agree – confidence does make all the difference…this is why many people find themselves being hit on after they are in a relationship & not so much when they are single.
John Chow recently had a piece about confidence in business, and I commented over there that it translates to love also.
Sadly it’s easy to tell people to “just be confident,” but I think it’s one of those easier said than done type things.
I think helping people put things in perspective is a good way to build confidence. If somebody is scared to jump in a pool, take them to the ocean and say “now look at that,” then go back to the pool.
Same with approaching women (or men…). Approaching one person seems rough until you really sit back and see how many people are on the planet AND how short your time here is going to be.
I closed my eyes and I thought of the person I would want to be with for the rest of my life – my wife.
Hello,
I believe there are cases where couples rush too much and don’t become friends first. Communication and friendship must be solid before a relationship can be solid.
When you’re happy and confident you attract happy confident people.
@ Peter McCartney – wow…thats really sweet!
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