A date is not an interview

Too many people take this dating stuff WAY too seriously. I’ve heard from some women who go out and buy something new to wear on a date with a new guy. Come on!! Sure, you want to look your best but you’re hoping to make this person a friend, not to have your wardrobe assessed.

Why not go out on dates as friends without all the expectations and see where it leads. If it leads nowhere, you’ve lost nothing. Yes, the biological clock is ticking but it won’t make a relationship where there is no interest.

If you go into every date worrying that you’ll say or do something silly and this person won’t like you or won’t want to see you again, you’re setting yourself up for unhappiness. Every time a relationship doesn’t work you’ll blame yourself.

It’s not about you. You wouldn’t blame the other person if YOU didn’t want to see them again. They weren’t what you were looking for at the time. Just like buying socks. Today you don’t want red socks. You don’t hate the red socks. The red socks haven’t done anything to piss you off. You just don’t want red socks today. Maybe you will one day, but not today.

So next time you have a date with a new person, wear something comfortable and go along for a good time. Promise yourself that you won’t expect anything to happen but a lot of laughs. Be yourself. Be happy. That’s when good things happen.