How far back do the differences between men and women go?
Everyone’s always talking about the differences between men and women. We’ve all read Men Are From Mars and Women are From Venus, right? I’m sure all the differences people cite ARE true and if that’s so, how do people ever get together?
I’m reminded by a research study done a couple of years ago where a good looking man and an attractive woman went to a bar one evening. Their job? To see how many of the opposite sex would agree to meet for sex. It started off with the man. He went to 30 women, introduced himself and said he found her attractive and would she go back to his place for sex. All 30 said no. A few were insulted. Another few were insulted enough to complain to the manager.
Then the woman started out doing the same thing. She introduced herself to 30 men one after the other and said she found him attractive and would he go back to her place and have sex. 29 men said yes and one guy said he had just gotten engaged and he just couldn’t do it but wished her luck in finding someone else.
Why are the results so different? If you’re looking for an answer from me I don’t have one. I suspect it goes back to our prehistoric times when men shagged everything they could find to spread their seed and women wanted the best genes to pass on to her children. But then I think, haven’t we come a long, long way since then? Do men still need to spread their seed around and do women still need to find the best genes to pass on? Surely we have that sorted, right?
What this tells me is that if I want a man, I should think sex first, love next. If I’m a man and I want a woman I should think she needs love first and then she’ll want sex. Is it that easy?
My feelings are if you are a woman you want a relationship. The sex goes with it but not the high light. A man’s line should always include: I would like to get to know you better. Even if you don’t.A man is driven by sex. A Woman is not. She is more interested in the finer things in life.
Just my opinion.
The biological answer is that reproductive behaviors are selected for more strongly than anything. If you aren’t reproducing, then you’re falling behind in evolutionary terms. Males just need to find a female to reproduce with, and females need to make sure they pick the best male because the female puts way more resources into making the offspring. It’s less imperative today because basically every child survives to reproduce in first world countries, but the winners in the long run have always been prolific at procreation. It’s not just humans, either. Females are selective and males have to win their approval in MANY (not all) species. How else would you explain the peacock tail? Or human peacocking like you wrote about earlier?
what you said seems very true and I liked it
“If you’re a man and you want a women you should think she needs love first and then she’ll want sex. And If you’re woman and you want a man, you should think sex first and love next.”