Do you judge a book by its cover?
No, of course you don’t. You’ve learned that it can be very misleading. The same thing is true for people. Look at the meteoric rise of Susan Boyle, the UK’s Got Talent contestant. She walked on stage and nearly everyone in the theatre judged her by her looks. She said she wanted to sing on stage and you could see and hear the tittering. Then she opened her mouth and sang like an angel. You could see the change in expression on every face and they knew that they’d unjustly judged her because of how she looked.
Too often, people who are seeking partners at an adult dating or really any dating site do the same thing. They browse the photos just like the men who read Playboy. They don’t read the words that go with them. If you were looking for a new relationship and you saw Susan Boyle’s photo, would YOU contact her? My guess is, probably not unless you’re a really special person. She admits to not having dated so if you said no, you’d have a lot of company. Now that she’s a worldwide star, I’ll bet there are any number of people who’d love to get to know her because she’s proven there’s lots more behind the face and body. Now that they know more about her, there’s an attraction that couldn’t have been found before.
Last week we received a note from a guy who’d met a woman in our free chatroom and they talked for months. We’d see them nearly every evening in their favourite room. He had a photo posted on his profile and heaps of photos in his personal gallery but she had none. He kept asking and she kept putting him off. Privately one night she told me that she loved spending time with him but he was really good looking and she knew she wasn’t and didn’t want it to end. I felt sad when she told me that and I encouraged her to post a photo. Nope, she wasn’t interested. She was 100% convinced that once he saw what she looked like that he’d move on to someone she considered to be more attractive.
Finally he said he was coming to her town which was a fair distance from where he lived and he wanted to take her to dinner. Remember they’d been talking for months and had gotten really close, as you do when you chat with someone for that length of time. He said he wouldn’t take no for an answer and it didn’t matter to him what she looked like.
As you can imagine, he meant every word. He thought she was beautiful inside and out and he wrote to tell us he was going to ask her to move in with him just to test the waters and if that worked out ok, he wanted to marry her and stay with her forever.
Personally I’d much rather be with someone who treats me well, respects me in all ways possible, is able to laugh at himself and with others, is intelligent and fun to be around than to be with someone who stepped off a magazine page and treats me like crap.
yeahh… she is really talented
Very well said. Susan Boyle truly pulled off an extraordinary performance. I am glad she is not like William Hung who only wanted his fifteen minutes of fame.
I “have” judged a book by it’s cover and I know it’s horrible to judge anyone period. Ms. Boyle amazing talent should make everyone look at the person within.
My main concern in all of this is that Susan may be over exposed and her chance of true fame could fizzle out. This would truly be a great pity – as the press are putting her main competition worry as a ’squeaky’ lad giving a rendition of an old Michael Jackson hit. We have all heard this type of thing before a thousand times … I was really hoping for something fresh and different this time around. I expect the Queen (who the winner will be performing in front of) was too hoping for something somewhat kind on the ear.
I hope that Susan gets her dream!
It was great to see someone shine after being so under estimated because of her looks. I don’t know that it’s quite the same with dating though. Looks should not be the driving force, but in most couples, both people are usually fairly similar in their level of physical attractiveness.
“And I was sitting there thinking .. gosh, has the entire world become so complaicent with the entertainment industry’s “standards” .. that it had to take the humility of this very talented 47 year-old to bring us back to reality? More than the music and her voice, I was humbled by this woman’s incredible amount of humility.”
I never watch that show, but this woman’s face and name is everywhere. She apparently made a huge impression on people. Might be fun to know how many people have blogged about her.