Ever say the wrong thing?
Everyone everywhere says the wrong thing at the wrong time. We all do it and then immediately wish we could eat our words. I have asked an old friend when she was due only to find out she wasn’t pregnant.
There’s a song by an Australian group about wishing to live that day again and most of us can relate to that. When you’re in a relationship, there ARE things that you say that you’ll rarely overcome.
People ask Jayce and I if we ever argue and are we as happy as we appear to be and the answer is yes to both. Sure we argue. We live together and we work together which means we’re together nearly 24/7 and that’s a bit of stress on any relationship, but we seem to thrive. So what’s our secret we’ve been asked.
“Never say the words you can’t take back,” is our reply.
It’s easy to disagree without hurting the other person’s feelings and you’ll both end up feeling respected at bedtime. Concentrate on what you’re upset with, not with the person and you’ll never have to wish you hadn’t said those words.
You can mess up when she asks if you think she’s gaining weight. Even if you get it wrong, she’s not going to hate you. If you say in anger, “You’re nothing but a fat pig!” she’s never going to forget it. Never. Even if you work it out and things seem fine, some words last forever and she will never forget what you called her in anger.
All is NOT lost if you have made a really big oops but you have to hurry. If you’ve said something that’s going to linger for decades and you want to erase it, you have at best, 72 hours to make up for it and not have it etched on your sweetie’s heart forever.
1. Say you’re sorry and that you spoke out of anger and frustration and that you didn’t mean it.
2. Write down what you said on a small slip of paper and put it in your mouth and say that you would eat your words 1000 times if you could.
3. Nothing says I’m sorry better than chocolate.
4. Unless you’ve been REALLY bad, flowers are overkill.
5. Change the linen on the bed and tidy up the bedroom. Leave a note on their pillow telling how much you love them.
It happens so often to me. Voices can fool you especially over the telephone. Now when I answer, I avoid the Sir or Madam.
I am a professional foot-eater. I find small talk abhorrent and generally screw up royally.
I have learned not to let it bother me. Usually.
Good tips. I am very conscious not to say things in anger so I think I have that covered, but there have been times when I’ve said something that I wish I could take back.
I totally agree about not saying the words that you can’t take back. I think that many people are under the impression that there are no such words because they are “just words” but if you really pay attention you’ll know that there are some things that are just off limits to say to your partner.
The due date part made chuckle. I was asked 1 week after giving birth when I was due. I know I looked puffy, but I was holding my one week old son when the comment was made. The women looked mortified, but I was too sleep deprived to care.
this is really not a good thing, i tried my best to bit my lips as much as i could in order not to give out false alarm words…
When you’ve been married for 25 years and work together like we do there’s always going to be a few words that you want to take back!
Great tips!