Getting Anal Sex Right

Does poop bother you? If yes, it’s ok if you skip this post as it’s intended for open-minded adults who are interested in or curious about anal sex.

Anal sex can be awkward, especially the first time when you’re anxious and want everything to be sexy and pleasurable. Lots of people are curious and have questions about anal sex, but it’s not for everyone, especially if one partner is doing it only to please the other. That won’t work and if it doesn’t, relax, there are lots of other ways to express your sexuality.

Still with me? Then on to a brief overview of a couple of techniques that will help you to get it right the first time.

As a woman, obviously these techniques are written from my perspective, but can be used on any eager and willing asshole.

Start Anal Sex Slowly

You must both be “in the mood” for any anal action to happen! If you aren’t turned on, it’s just not going to happen, so start out with a nice relaxing bath or shower together just to get her motor going. For me, 15 minutes of cuddling and passionate kissing makes my body beg for sex. Some women prefer oral sex. Whatever does it for your partner to ache for you, that’s what you’ll do first.

There comes a point during foreplay when I woman just needs to be fucked. She’ll tell you she loves you, she’ll tell you that she’s ready, she’ll tell you that she NEEDS you or she’ll be straight forward like me and say, “fuck me.” This is the clue you’ve been waiting for.

Get the lubricant. Get more lube. (if you prefer to use a condom or latex glove, put it on before you get the lube – sometimes this helps with penetration.) Press your finger against her anus and stimulate there for a bit. Don’t rush things, there is no hurry and the time clock isn’t running. Keep her relaxed and uninhibited. While you’re rubbing her anus tell her how sexy you think this is and how it’s turning you on to see her dripping wet. You can keep her in this state by other sexual stimulation like rubbing her clit with the fingers of your other hand or putting a couple of fingers in her vagina.

The sensations will start to come together and she’ll really get into the sensation of rubbing her asshole rather than being nervous. When she starts to moan, insert that finger into her ass slowly. Pull out your finger and push it in a few times and if she’s still ok, insert finger #2. This might be a bit more painful than the first finger, so go slowly and she’ll let you know how it feels. If she’s the adventurous sort, now is the time to try a small anal vibrator to really get her excited back there.

Anal penetration. Take my advice and wear a condom. Even if you know this woman and have been with her forever, it’s not the cleanest part of her body. Trust me, she’s tight enough back there for all the sensations to come through a condom! What you want is the enjoyment of anal sex, not an infection that will last after the experience is a fond memory.

Slowly, and I do mean slowly, push your penis against her anus. Her body will accomodate you and won’t be painful if you take it slow. I know you want to get in there and have a good time, but if you want to re-live this experience, make it good for her too. One idea that seems to work better is for her to be on top and sit on your cock and take it as SHE wants it. You don’t want any rectal tearing or bleeding to dampen the excitement. Once you’re in all the way and there’s no more discomfort for her – fuck each other’s brains out. You might find it incredibly tight and she might find that she really doesn’t like it after all or you both might think this is the best sex ever. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you two were sharing a new sexual experience and a new sexual high.

Clean up time. When you finish – take a shower together and wash all the important bits with soap and water and dispose of the condom or gloves carefully.

Important Notes:

- If something goes wrong please don’t be embarrassed to go to a doctor asap! Anal sex, especially if done roughly, can cause real medical problems. If she has abdominal pain, more bleeding than you’d get if you passed a humongous poop or if he has itching or burning of his penis – see a doctor. This isn’t going to be the first time they’ve seen it, I promise!

- Don’t make a big deal about any poop on the condom. Remember she’s let you in to a very private part of her body and if you embarrass her you won’t get there again!

- Some women use enemas to clean out the back passage before anal sex or take laxatives. If a bit of poop from the place where poop lives bothers you, then anal sex is probably too dirty for your mind to get around.

- If you don’t succeed the first time, don’t give up. If she’s willing to try again, go for it. Some women take a few times to get comfortable with the idea physically OR mentally. Maybe just use your finger the first time and maybe get to the vibrator on the 2nd try, then move to two fingers – each time ending with terrific “regular” sex.

- Don’t ask for anal sex to always be a part of every sexual experience. Regardless if you both had an excellent time, many women like to enjoy anal sex as a special occasion experience. That said, some women love it and want it every time you drop your undies.