Does your size stop you from having great sex?
Way too many people allow the size of their bodies to dictate whether they feel comfortable having sex. This is SO wrong. If you’re even a teensy bit guilty of that, let me smack you hard. If you’re sticking to only missionary and doggy for your sexual satisfaction, it’s time you loved that body you walk around in and start getting kinky with it!
Before we get too far, to those people who think larger men and women aren’t sexy, get over yourself. People are sexy whatever their size. You might think really really skinny people are sexy and someone else might think a skinny person isn’t sexy at all. We’re all programmed from birth to desire something different. So if you’re bigger than your best friend, don’t buy into the media hype that size 2 is all that will do.
You CAN have great sex at any size!
Don’t let your size dictate your self worth, your confidence or your sexiness because no matter what size you are, we’re all worried about how our bodies look naked. Now I’m short and round and there’s no way I’d sign up for the TV show, “How To Look Good Naked,” but my man loves my body just the way it is. He likes how it responds when he touches it.
I read about an experiment done by Marie Claire magazine, where they took a picture of a size 14 model and had two mobile billboards made. One with the caption: “I think I’m sexy. Do you?” and the other: “I think I’m fat. Do you?” The result? That almost the same amount of people agreed with the statement that they were looking at. The results tend to confirm that people see you very much the way that you see yourself. If you believe that you are sexy, so will others.
So when my husband says I’m sexy, he’s not talking about the large boobs, although I suppose that doesn’t hurt, and he’s not talking about my laugh, or smile I don’t think. I think my state of mind comes through. I feel sexy, therefore he sees me as sexy. Now I know some of you will think, “holy cow.. she’s 61 and she thinks she’s sexy???” It’s true. You can be sexy at any size and at any age! Your perception of yourself is what counts.
On SexyAds there is a huge group of men who love dating BBW ’s and having sex with big beautiful women. There’s a huge group of women who like having sex with BHM ’s big handsome men. It’s not just small to average size people who can have great sex!
If you have a poor body image because of your size, I suggest that you stand in front of the mirror naked for about 30 minutes or until you can tell that person in the mirror that he or she is sexy. Love yourself because this isn’t a trial run. You don’t get to live your life and then do it again. Be sexy now. Try all those positions you’ve wondered about. Test out those new toys. Get it on!
Great post! I liked it so much that I wrote a post on the subject and linked back to yours
Thanks for the inspiration!
Great post! I always used to be skinny – and I loved it. Then, about 2 years ago I began having some very odd symptoms – one of which was gaining 100 lbs in about 6 months. I couldn’t figure out what was going on – and after a lot of testing, we discovered I ahve Cushing’s Disease. (A tumor on my pituitary gland.)
I’ve been single ever since them – totally because of my size. I’ve hated the weight (and myself) since it adopted my body – even though it’s from an illness I have no control over. I thought my dating had come to an end – that I would never find anyone. Certainly anyone who would ever find me attractive.
Your post brought up some really good points – and I’m going to print it out as a reminder. It seems like you always come out with posts I need to hear – and I thank you for that.
Good article, people should be comfortable with themselves, if they are unhappy with their weight they should set goals to achieve it. If they ARE happy with their weight, then they need to be with people who also are. Nobody should have to put up with negativity there is somebody for everybody.
nice post…..
My husband and I have GREAT sex, and I’m nearly 3 times his size. He says my ass is his favorite part of my body (its one of the biggest parts of my body) and he loves it when I’m on top. I long ago got over the fear that I was going to hurt him.
Its not about image anymore, nor about being thin…its about being healthy. Being large and healthy is great. Being obese and making excuses for it, is not.
How can you love yourself enough to shag with the lights on when you don;t love yourself enough to be healthy.
Would you coach an alcoholic and a drug addict how to be sexy in bed?
Blindedbyblonde, I WOULD coach an alcoholic or a drug addict on how to be sexy in bed. I would never assume that because someone has issues that I don’t have that they shouldn’t be encouraged to enjoy sex.
Please don’t assume that someone overweight is not healthy because many are. Morbidly obese, maybe you have a point, but chubby is sexy to a lot of people.
I’m serious when I say that BBW dating is a fair segment of the SexyAds.com population. Not only that, but they don’t sit around waiting to be thin to enjoy sex.
I love people who automatically think THIN=HEALTHY. My very thin trim neighbor dropped dead from a heart attack, it was a huge surprise. Everyone thought he was so healthy.
Do not judge a book by its cover. I am over weight and except for a thyroid condition that I have been trying to manage for 15 years I am very healthy. Normal/low blood pressure, normal cholesterol the whole 9 yards. But because I will never be a size 6 or have flat abs I am unhealthy. I am active, strong and eat healthy I just wasn’t built to be a super model.
But I am sexy! Love the post! Why not coach an alcoholic or drug addict to be sexy in bed? You don’t think some one who is addicted needs to learn to love themselves? I would think learning to love oneself is a great step in the right direction to recovery.
Rokhopa I couldn’t agree more. If there was more love in the world than criticism and condemnation, we’d all be happier and getting more sex.