How sexuality has changed
Remember back in the early days of Playboy when it was finally OK to look at sexuality? In spite of what the internet has offered in terms of accessibility to pornography, Hugh Hefner taught us all that it was OK to get the magazine. The photos each showed off the sexuality of the woman but done so in such a classy manner that “normal” everyday people were buying the magazine. I only read the articles, I promise.
When the Internet was in nearly every house in the US it became OK to look at sexuality and many (most?) men had a field day looking at women who were sexual in a way that their wives and girlfriends were not. Here was a new sexual outlet that made them feel good and they took to it like a magnet jumps on a fridge.
Now that the world wide web is in nearly every house around the world, changes are still happening. Now it’s the women who are realizing that it’s not just OK to look at sexuality, it’s finally OK to “be” sexual in that safe environment.
When we first started SexyAds.com, in the sealed section we had a few raunchy photos of women submitted and few more raunchy photos of couples and the rest were men. There were heaps of regular photos too and still are. Lately we’re seeing more women comfortable with uploading a sexy photo of herself. Not necessarily nude, but the photos evoke a sexuality we weren’t seeing five or ten years ago.
Women are catching up to the fact that sexuality, touching and sex are an important part of a relationship and a woman wants to choose a guy who’s going to flip her switches.
Before you tell me, I know it’s possible to have a relationship without sex and be completely happy. I applaud those who can be happy in that situation. Don’t count me in that crowd because I crave touching, being touched and everything that goes with it. They don’t call me a sexy old broad for nothing.
In Australia there is a geek magazine that comes out monthly called APC and it reviews computers, printers, operating systems, games and all things a geek needs to know more about. In their March issue 2008 they ran a big spread about how to get lucky on the Second Life site. I nearly fell over. I don’t normally read the magazine because there’s so little geek in me it’s not funny, but sometimes when you’re on the throne and there’s nothing else to read, even the APC magazine will do. Anyway, according to the article, women join Second Life with all their parts - ready for action it seems. Men join and they get a body but they don’t get a penis. They have to buy one. The point I’m making is that 5 years ago APC wouldn’t have run a story about how to get lucky with cybersex. It’s OK to talk about it now.
We all have fantasies, I’m sure. Many women fantasize about slowly undressing before a roomful of appreciative males. Now most of us wouldn’t dare getting up on stage in a club and doing that (I’d worry that my pasties would fall off or that I’d get booed off the stage) but online that’s what is happening night after night. They are feeling sexy and safe in front of adoring crowds in video chatrooms all over the net.
Has this changed the morality of the people? I don’t think so. We’re all the same people we were before. We wouldn’t think about robbing a bank or stealing from our neighbors or conking our grandmother over the head. We still go to church and PTA meetings. We still vote and we’re still kind to animals. The difference is that we’re taking charge of our happiness in every aspect of our lives - including sex.
How sexuality has changed
In spite of what the internet has offered in terms of accessibility to pornography, Hugh Hefner taught us all that it was OK to get the magazine.
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I can’t look at girly magazines because there is no taste, nothing seductive, it’s all laid out there. That’s raunchy.
We are changing I believe, we’re changing because everything is in our face and in a few more years what we would have never dreamed we’d be capable of will happen (regrettably).
Really? Hefner taught that it was OK to get that magazine? News to me. I guess I always saw him as a pervert and I still do. It’s not something I’d want to buy and not cover it up with a brown paper bag.
I agree that women shouldn’t be afraid of their sexuality but there’s a difference between being sexual and being a pervert. I believe that Porno is not healthy and sets up unrealistic expectations, for men and women, of what a healthy relationship should be. I was devastated and pissed when I found out hubby had been looking at porn online. To me those other women represented carnal cheating even though he never touched a person.
I don’t think people should be *ashamed* of their sexuality but I do think it should be private between a couple (Preferably married). This lack of abandon (the rush to the opposite extreme) leads to dysfunction like Britney Spears and Paris Hilton.
Ok, maybe I worded that badly. Before Hefner, anyone reading a magazine with nude photos was considered a pervert. Maybe some still think that, but most of us just think nothing about it. To each his own.
And I still think that most of “us” do think a lot about it - as in it is not a good thing. Hubby and I disagree. He says that if we have a boy someday he won’t mind if the kid gets Playboy or looks at nudie pics. I will mind very much because I find them degrading and demeaning to women. Not to mention the negativity it brings into relationships.