If you think you can

Too often I hear from people who’ve been in the dating market for a while who say, “I never get lucky,” “Nobody ever replies to me,” “You have to be a bad boy to get a date,” “Nobody wants a nice guy.” Hogwash to them all. Of course they’re never going to get a date because they’re always whining about their bad luck.

Ever notice how we’re attracted to positive people? We want to be around them because we feel good. That’s the kind of person we all want to be.

If you think you’re never going to get a date, that’s exactly what you’re going to get. Forget The Secret, it’s more basic than that. The old saying if you think you can, you can and if you think you can’t, you can’t — is true in this instance as well. We all say that someone with confidence is attractive and the alternative is true too. If you’re always looking at the glass half empty that’s what you’re going to get.

Change that tune in your head. It’s certainly possible to do that. Whenever you think those icky thoughts, stop and remind yourself that this is nasty brain programming that has happened over time and it is not true. It’s a belief you have but it is not valid and probably was never valid.

Look in your mirror every morning and say hello to the New You. “I’m a happy, healthy wonderful person and people will enjoy being around me today.” Try it, it could change your life.