Comments on: Infidelity

By: Anon

Anon — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:56:26 +0000

My brief fling with another man has probably saved my marriage. I used to think that I would never cheat on my husband. There came a time, though, when he didn’t want sex and I was still in need. There is only so much masturbation that one can manage. I felt ugly, unwanted, and unloved even though I knew that his lack of desire was not about me.

The other man reminded me of many things. First, I am worthy of being wanted. I am still a sexual being. I am not ugly or any of those other things I perceived. Second, he has reminded me just how wonderful my husband is in so many ways. My husband and I are a perfect team together in almost all ways.

In fact, my extramarital exploits livened up my marital sex life, too. Not exactly sure how that worked, but my husband got off on me talking to him about what I “might” be doing with the other guy.

By: Jasmina

Jasmina — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:59:35 +0000

How men and women look at it is very different. For example, I believe that even a one night stand is cheating, even “only” oral sex is cheating…my husband disagrees and thinks that thats not the case – that only if one has a relationship outside the marriage is infidelity….I think even internet chatting is infidelity – thats only and ONLY if they get all sexual in the talking.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:18:07 +0000

I have a lot of opinions on this subject but since my over all opinion is that it is WRONG and SELFISH. If you want to leave a relationship then leave don’t go around behind your partners back and have sex with someone else. If there is something wrong with your relationship talk about it. Don’t teach your children “mom and dad are not happy so mommy lets daddy have a girlfriend” that is outrageous. I will be the moral police if it is needed it is wrong to cheat!

By: Brenda

Brenda — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 07:55:52 +0000

I love your willingness to look at your attitude! I am with you – different horses for different courses and it is not up to me to take any moral ground in relation to another’s relationship. What I am big on though is protecting children and I would love everyone to take a stance that will help children to grow up in an environment of well being.

By: Roschelle

Roschelle — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:25:47 +0000

Really hard question…or should I say definitely one you have to meet and arrive at an answer to for yourself. For years I said NO…ABSOLUTELY NOT. But when faced with making that decision it was a lot harder than I thought. Lots of studies claim that humans like most other animal species were not designed to be monogamous. Since we are the higher species on the evolutionary chain, we’ve adapted more socially acceptable behaviors.

Regardless to what your decision is, weigh the pros and cons…and by all means be honest. Deception is the hurtful part about infidelity.