Is there a man drought?

Whether it’s true or just an urban myth, many women believe there is a profound lack of eligible men to date. Women from Maine to Hawaii are cooking up schemes to nab the best of the rest with what some men are calling just plain weird.

Many men are enjoying the turning of the tables and love it when I woman asks him out but some aren’t so convinced. Like Fred in Wisconsin had to say,

Most men say they love it when they get asked out by a woman, but try getting asked out every single week and it’s enough to make my skin crawl. I like to do the chasing. My current girlfriend made me chase her for weeks, and after being chased for so long by other women, it was a refreshing relief to be able to do some of the work for once.

Is his masculinity a bit too fragile to handle dinner paid for by a woman who earns more than he does? I suspect so.

What should a seeking woman do to enhance her chances of landing the big one?

• Remember that it’s not always about you. Quit with the drama.
• Try not to be Funny Girl and the life of the party. He’s convinced that’s his job.
• Don’t be a man basher — that makes you too much like him.
• Don’t invite him to dinner, invite him to invite you to dinner. Weird but effective.

Don’t overanalyze everything he does. If he says he will call and he doesn’t, give him a few days. If he doesn’t call, move on. He’s not interested and there’s nothing you can do to make him interested, so forget all the why didn’t he call questions and move on to the next conquest. Life’s too short to waste it wondering why a date didn’t go further.