Players, are all around, we’ve all seen them but too often it’s after we’ve fallen into the trap of no escape. How can you be sure you’re not fooled by someone who’s only in it for a game? Now I know that there are players on both sides and there are even some couples who are players. Before you all start yelling at me while I’m cleaning and not looking, we get more complaints from women about guys not being sincere than we do from men about women.

No nerves. Most people meeting for a first date tend to be a bit nervous or awkward but the player is always in control. He has an air of confidence, he’ll look you in the eye and he’ll give you a prize winning smile. Who wouldn’t swoon over that? You won’t because he’s not sincere. You’re a notch in his belt and once he knows you’ve fallen for him, he’s off to his next conquest.

Elaborate, romantic dates. With a player, it’s performance dating all the way. This guy knows what women will fall for, that’s why Internet scammers are so successful. The player will plan events that some people only dream about, but as soon as you’re hooked, he’s off to his next “love”.

Do you bungee jump? The player is always looking for thrills, always ripping the lid off his adrenaline jar. That’s why you’re so interesting at first. For him, it’s the thrill of the chase and once he’s reached the summit, your player will find you boring.

Online players. We’ve all heard about the guy who sweeps you off your feet through email or chat. He seems just perfect. Weeks go by and finally you say those 3 little words and tell him you would like to meet him. He tells you sure thing, he can’t wait to touch you, to hold you and more. The date comes and just before he’s to arrive, there’s a problem. He’s so sorry but he can’t make it, but it will be soon. Another date is set and another disappointment. You keep on waiting because he is so caring and romantic online, you can’t imagine that he’s just getting his kicks online and has no intention of meeting you. Is he married? Not all online players are married but many are.

Always stick with a nice guy. He might be a bit awkward at first but he’s friendly, caring and he remembers things you’ve said or important dates. He shows up when he says he will. He isn’t always interested in what will make him happy. A nice guy has friends and he can mingle in a group of people who are more or less accomplished than he is. He fits in wherever he goes. He’s not afraid to say I love you when it’s time and when it’s time he says it enough to make you feel terrific. Finally, a nice guy treats his momma right. In fact, most of the time he likes everyone in his family. A nice guy has been brought up to have a good set of values. You can trust a nice guy.

We can’t deny that our lives are all really busy with work, family, house and friends that sometimes we fail the person we love the most – our partner or spouse. We often take each other for granted and we stop doing all the things that made life so special when we first got together and we often take each other for granted.

Tips to re-kindle that special feeling between you.

* Bring a favorite treat home as a surprise.
* Flirt. You remember how to do it, it’s like riding a bike.
* Compliment your sweetie. It can be about anything.
* Cook a special meal. Being waited on feels really good.
* Stop for a cuddle when passing by in the kitchen or hallway.
* Leave a love note. How about inside a sock.
* Send a racy text message.
* Do one of “their” household jobs.

What about you? Share what you do to make the person you’re with feel like a million bucks?