It seems that a growing number of us don’t trust our partner or spouse and we’re resorting to the latest technology to catch them doing something wrong.

Two of the most popular gadgets on the market are a device that recovers deleted text messages from mobile phones and a chemical test kit to detect traces of semen on underwear.

In Australia, OzSpy’s SIM Card Data Recovery Pro works by placing the SIM card into the gadget and then plugging it into a computer to download the stored information, which includes deleted text messages. If you’ve been worried that your wife has been sleeping around, there’s the CheckMate 5-Minute Infidelity Test Kit which works in a similar way to a home pregnancy test.

The company promoting the CheckMate claims to be selling more than 100 of each device a month nationwide in Australia — more than twice the number sold six months ago.

Currently there is no law banning the use of these sleuthing tricks by individuals. Privacy laws do not prevent snooping to find out who’s doing the dirty on you.

It IS illegal in Australia to install spy cameras without consent of those filmed. There’s the potential of 2 years in jail and more than $25,000 in fines.

I suppose it’s only natural that with all the latest technological toys, someone with a bit of savvy will try one just to satisfy themselves that their partner is true blue. I thinik if you really doubt your partner, that counseling would be a much better option to get everything out on the table and sorted out.

The owner of OzSpy in Melbourne, Australia reports that sales of spy gadgets are booming and it’s not just men, women want to know who their husbands have been emailing and texting via their phones. I’m sure it’s only men who want to check for semen on panties though!

The message to cheaters is clear — covering your tracks has never been harder. If you choose to cheat, be prepared to have your house of cards fall down around you when your wife sorts it all out.

In my opinion, the most important trait a potential partner of mine could have is kindness. Sure, having a gorgeous man on my arm might make me feel proud when I stroll in to a party or fancy restaurant or club, but it’s when I’m alone with my man that his kindness really shines. Seriously, what’s more important when you fall asleep at night, knowing you went out with a hot looking guy or that your guy made you feel wonderful about yourself several times during the day. I’ll choose feeling wonderful about myself every day of the week.

Now I’m not sayin’ I’d like a butt ugly man who never washes or brushes his teeth, far from it. It’s just that the outside bits are far less important to me than the inny bits of his character.

What else does kindness mean?

Kind people control the situation. They’re in control of every situation because they choose their actions. Every time you give up your seat for an elderly person or let the guy behind you at the supermarket checkout go ahead of you because he only has a few items, you’re in control. You are the one making things happen. Sure, the other person is benefiting, but he couldn’t have the benefit if you hadn’t done the favor.

Kind people feel stoked. Nothing feels better than when someone says thanks for something I’ve done for them. It gives me a big endorphin rush and it can last for hours. Nobody can be kind all the time, but when you are, you feel terrific and know you’ve done the right thing.

Kind people are healthier. A survey of 3,000 volunteers over a period of a year showed that they are less likely to suffer ulcers, stress and colds right after helping someone.

I’ve been accused of picking up strays by my husband but in every single instance, he’s come back to say that what we’ve done together for someone has made a big difference in our own lives.

So look for something important to do for someone else. You’ll feel better for it and you’ll be way more attractive to people like me.

How many times do we women ask stupid questions like this? Does it matter? Your ass isn’t going to look smaller unless you’re wearing a loose, free flowing skirt, so why worry about it? We’re all going to wear pants and jeans and shorts because that’s what we feel comfortable in.

Should you ask your husband, partner or boyfriend this question? NO. Firstly because it’s a stupid way to get a compliment on your ass and secondly, if they know what’s good for them, they won’t say yes.

If you are desperately seeking a compliment or some confirmation that your sweetie still thinks you’re wonderful, why not come up with a much more clever way to get what you want. Ask for it.

“Honey, I got this outfit because I thought you’d like it, what do you think?” will work wonders. You have a good chance of getting a compliment on your choice but you also have a chance of finding out what he likes if he doesn’t like this one. It also gives you a chance to let him know that you like dressing in ways that are pleasing to you both.

What began as New Zealand’s (and now the world’s) National Nude day on July 14th every year is not a public holiday (sadly) but a day to celebrate the human form.

Brain child of former New Zealand All Black rugby star and TV presenter Marc Ellis, National Nude Day (also now known as International Nude Day) is a celebration of the skin with much fun attached. The concept has been adopted by particularly Dunedin, New Zealand students (Scarfies) where getting nude is nothing new. Dunedin is a legend University City in the south of New Zealand.

Nude Day is a one day a year that all in NZ can celebrate nudeness, nakedness, being in the nudey, running free in all your original raw beauty, putting on your best birthday suit. It’s a day everyone can participate in, fat, skinny, big, small, firm, soft and the flabby can all get involved. Just between you and me, looking around the office where I work, I’m not sure I want to see them all nude. Not to worry, it’s only one day a year and I can stand it if they choose to get their gear off.

To everyone around the world, celebrate your body and celebrate New Zealand and the Worlds Nude Day. It’s liberating and it’s beautiful. Our bodies are the only things we own, be proud of yours no matter what shape or size you are.

This National Nude Day video does show nudity so if you don’t want to see that, don’t click, ok?