Men and Feelings
Picture this: you and your man are in romance heaven. Everything seems perfect! You and your partner are enjoying each other’s company. You are almost together 24/7 and then it seems like everything is falling into place. But then, you decide to talk about your thoughts, your feelings, and where you think the relationship is going. Once he finds out about your expectations, he suddenly starts backing off and keeping his distance. He doesn’t even return your calls anymore. It seems like he fell off the romance radar.
When a woman in a relationship decides to open up about her true feelings, guys usually go into an instant panic mode. What is it with men and feelings anyway? Are our men allergic to feelings and expectations? It seems like every time a woman attempts to talk about how she is feeling, the man in her life suddenly turn his back away. No matter how hard a woman tries, she can’t seem to rekindle the connection they used to share before she decided to voice out her feelings. Her man just drifts further and further away until he disappears altogether, and she’s left in the dark wondering just what it was she did wrong. Besides, all she did was tell the truth about her feelings, right? How could that possibly work against her relationship? If this hasn’t happened to you before, then it’s probably happened to one of your girl friends. So when either you or one of your girl friends think you’re almost at the point of having “the talk” with a boyfriend, make sure you remember the advice in this article. “The talk,” by itself, isn’t a bad idea to have. In fact, it’s actually a necessary step for the relationship to move forward and grow into the next level. The problem rises when the woman speaks her mind in a negative context, and this is usually the case, particularly, if she just came out of a bad relationship.
When women want to talk about their feelings, expectations, etc to their man, it is important to remember to not shock the guy. Try to be subtle and try not to overwhelm him. When she talks about her feelings, there may be certain expectations that she has. One of the reasons why some guys back away is because they might be thinking that you are expecting too much from them, especially if it’s early in the dating game. It is important that women take things slowly — have the talk when you know that your man is ready for it.
Don’t think you shouldn’t talk about your feelings but accept that he might not take it the way you mean it. You might be talking from the bottom of your soul and all he hears is blah blah blah love blah blah insecure blah blah blah. Don’t let him get away with it. Not listening is a put down and says that you aren’t worth listening to. We all know that men and feelings don’t necessarily go together. When things are done subtly and at the right time, then the chances of him engaging in a good talk about your future, your needs, your expectations and your feelings.
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