I get asked this a lot. What DO women expect of a man? Certainly not all women but most women are by nature nurturing beings. We want a friend and a lover. Most of us don’t want one without the other. Women who have a partner who’s only a friend will seek a lover elsewhere. Most women will tire of a man who’s only a lover and not a friend.

We want men who want to interact with us in a way that makes us want them — sexually. We’d like a guy who’s fun and interesting and we want him to flirt with us. It’s really good when he let’s us know that he’s attracted to us.

What we don’t want is boring. We can do boring all by ourselves.

We want you to smell good when you kiss our necks and when you give us a hug we want you to mean business. Bring us close and hold us tight — don’t forget that smelling good bit either.

When we leave you a message, the timer starts when we hang up. You’ll be graded on how quickly you respond. We’ll SAY it’s not important that you didn’t call right back but we won’t forget it, especially in the early days. Let us know you’re interested so we don’t have to start looking for someone new.

We’d like you to look like you took some effort in how you look — just for us. Occasionally, we’d like you to dress up for a special night. Buy a thong for the nights we’d like to see you dressed down.

It’s important to us to have something in common in and outside of the bedroom. Be creative sexually and think of something you’d enjoy doing with us away from the house. It will deepen our connection. We don’t want to be under your wing all the time but we hope you’ll want to spend time with us. You’ll get big points for this.

Ladies, help me out here. What do you expect from a man?

Picture this: you and your man are in romance heaven. Everything seems perfect! You and your partner are enjoying each other’s company. You are almost together 24/7 and then it seems like everything is falling into place. But then, you decide to talk about your thoughts, your feelings, and where you think the relationship is going. Once he finds out about your expectations, he suddenly starts backing off and keeping his distance. He doesn’t even return your calls anymore. It seems like he fell off the romance radar.

When a woman in a relationship decides to open up about her true feelings, guys usually go into an instant panic mode. What is it with men and feelings anyway? Are our men allergic to feelings and expectations? It seems like every time a woman attempts to talk about how she is feeling, the man in her life suddenly turn his back away. No matter how hard a woman tries, she can’t seem to rekindle the connection they used to share before she decided to voice out her feelings. Her man just drifts further and further away until he disappears altogether, and she’s left in the dark wondering just what it was she did wrong. Besides, all she did was tell the truth about her feelings, right? How could that possibly work against her relationship? If this hasn’t happened to you before, then it’s probably happened to one of your girl friends. So when either you or one of your girl friends think you’re almost at the point of having “the talk” with a boyfriend, make sure you remember the advice in this article. “The talk,” by itself, isn’t a bad idea to have. In fact, it’s actually a necessary step for the relationship to move forward and grow into the next level. The problem rises when the woman speaks her mind in a negative context, and this is usually the case, particularly, if she just came out of a bad relationship.

When women want to talk about their feelings, expectations, etc to their man, it is important to remember to not shock the guy. Try to be subtle and try not to overwhelm him. When she talks about her feelings, there may be certain expectations that she has. One of the reasons why some guys back away is because they might be thinking that you are expecting too much from them, especially if it’s early in the dating game. It is important that women take things slowly — have the talk when you know that your man is ready for it.

Don’t think you shouldn’t talk about your feelings but accept that he might not take it the way you mean it. You might be talking from the bottom of your soul and all he hears is blah blah blah love blah blah insecure blah blah blah. Don’t let him get away with it. Not listening is a put down and says that you aren’t worth listening to. We all know that men and feelings don’t necessarily go together. When things are done subtly and at the right time, then the chances of him engaging in a good talk about your future, your needs, your expectations and your feelings.


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