A lot of men can get frustrated when they have trouble getting their wife or partner in the mood for sexual intimacy. Do men really have stronger sex drives than women? Yes, they do. Most men seem to be able to be aroused at the peek of a boob through a sleeveless blouse. Sadly, most women aren’t that easily turned on.

Women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. We are more easily stimulated when we feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a woman. Of course every relationship is different but what we see in blogs and ads and forum posts, it appears that quite a lot of men have trouble getting their lover/spouse interested in sex when they want it.

Here are some ideas to help men to become closer and more intimate so their sex lives can be healthy and satisfying for both partners.

* Show appreciation – be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her. Notice when she’s done something for you. Remember that she didn’t sign on to be your maid and maybe you should let her know that her attention to your stuff is appreciated.

* Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, – noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.

* Let her know that you desire her – be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

* Take some notice of the wonderful traits she has that you love her for – and share what you notice with her.

* Compliment her – what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy. Tell her she’s sexy.

* Tell her how important she is to you – it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.

* Let her know she is the most important person in your life – women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.

* Be affectionate – in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive. It will tell her that she’s important to you in other ways than sexual.

These suggestions are not ways to get in her pants. Women know when you’re doing that. These are ideas to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a spicier sex life. Bless you wife/partner and she will want to bless you too.

I say again that for me, the sexiest man on the planet is the one helping with the dishes or sweeping the patio or feeding the cats. It means that these jobs aren’t mine because I have a set of tits. These are our chores because we share this space together.

I know that some of you will say that you’re doing all these things and you’re still not getting sex. If that’s the case, I’m afraid there’s a lot more wrong with your relationship than not getting enough sex.

Players, are all around, we’ve all seen them but too often it’s after we’ve fallen into the trap of no escape. How can you be sure you’re not fooled by someone who’s only in it for a game? Now I know that there are players on both sides and there are even some couples who are players. Before you all start yelling at me while I’m cleaning and not looking, we get more complaints from women about guys not being sincere than we do from men about women.

No nerves. Most people meeting for a first date tend to be a bit nervous or awkward but the player is always in control. He has an air of confidence, he’ll look you in the eye and he’ll give you a prize winning smile. Who wouldn’t swoon over that? You won’t because he’s not sincere. You’re a notch in his belt and once he knows you’ve fallen for him, he’s off to his next conquest.

Elaborate, romantic dates. With a player, it’s performance dating all the way. This guy knows what women will fall for, that’s why Internet scammers are so successful. The player will plan events that some people only dream about, but as soon as you’re hooked, he’s off to his next “love”.

Do you bungee jump? The player is always looking for thrills, always ripping the lid off his adrenaline jar. That’s why you’re so interesting at first. For him, it’s the thrill of the chase and once he’s reached the summit, your player will find you boring.

Online players. We’ve all heard about the guy who sweeps you off your feet through email or chat. He seems just perfect. Weeks go by and finally you say those 3 little words and tell him you would like to meet him. He tells you sure thing, he can’t wait to touch you, to hold you and more. The date comes and just before he’s to arrive, there’s a problem. He’s so sorry but he can’t make it, but it will be soon. Another date is set and another disappointment. You keep on waiting because he is so caring and romantic online, you can’t imagine that he’s just getting his kicks online and has no intention of meeting you. Is he married? Not all online players are married but many are.

Always stick with a nice guy. He might be a bit awkward at first but he’s friendly, caring and he remembers things you’ve said or important dates. He shows up when he says he will. He isn’t always interested in what will make him happy. A nice guy has friends and he can mingle in a group of people who are more or less accomplished than he is. He fits in wherever he goes. He’s not afraid to say I love you when it’s time and when it’s time he says it enough to make you feel terrific. Finally, a nice guy treats his momma right. In fact, most of the time he likes everyone in his family. A nice guy has been brought up to have a good set of values. You can trust a nice guy.

We can’t deny that our lives are all really busy with work, family, house and friends that sometimes we fail the person we love the most – our partner or spouse. We often take each other for granted and we stop doing all the things that made life so special when we first got together and we often take each other for granted.

Tips to re-kindle that special feeling between you.

* Bring a favorite treat home as a surprise.
* Flirt. You remember how to do it, it’s like riding a bike.
* Compliment your sweetie. It can be about anything.
* Cook a special meal. Being waited on feels really good.
* Stop for a cuddle when passing by in the kitchen or hallway.
* Leave a love note. How about inside a sock.
* Send a racy text message.
* Do one of “their” household jobs.

What about you? Share what you do to make the person you’re with feel like a million bucks?

“Do you ever sit back and wonder why the cocky badboy guy — the one who barely appears interested his date –seems to be the one who gets the dames?

Have you groaned internally when hearing the words, “You’re a truly good person, but I only like you like a friend,” from a woman who you would really like to enjoy between the sheets? Is she the one person you would do just about every thing for only to turn around and watch her chase after a guy who treats her like she’s nothing unique? And are you confused about why she would date a person who treats her like crap when she could have you — who would treat her like a queen and give her every thing she wants? Well, sit up straight because I’m likely to tell you a comething which you may not wish to hear.

Firstly, nice equates with boring and predictable. Check the dictionary meaning for nice and you’ll see that it’s pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. Speaking about you, the nice guy now, you’re average — not exceptional, not thrilling, and not sexy. We’ve never heard a woman say she didn’t wish to date a a guy simply because he was confident, passionate, or exciting.

You’ve probably also heard women say, “He’s such a lovely person. He’s so sweet and he’s always there for me, but I only see him as a best friend.” Or it could be, “He’s such a nice guy, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal — but there’s no chemistry between us. He just does not turn me on.” Too many good men fall into the nice guy category..

The truth is, Mr. Nice Guy, you can’t bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you or to have sex with you. And as obvious as that sounds, if you’re one of those guys I described, that’s exactly what you’re trying to make happen. And it won’t work.

A word of warning here — I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way.

What I am suggesting is for you to think more of yourself than you do now.

For instance: The answer to the question, “Why does the cocky guy who doesn’t show he cares a lot about his date — get lucky?” It’s simple, really, the nice guy cares too much too soon and he lets her know it. He lets her know right up front that he’ll drop everything at her every request. He’s always available, always trying to please and is always willing to do whatever she wants to do, even if he’d really rather be doing something else. He never asks for anything in return. This strips him of any value because he ends up quite desperate, insecure and needy of a woman’s constant attention.

Seriously, if a woman doesn’t have to do ANYTHING to keep a man happy, what fun is that? Where’s the excitement of thinking up fun things to keep his interest? She’s going to value a nice guy the same way he values himself – not important. She’ll choose the confident guy who knows he’s as important as she is.

When you set your sights on winning someone’s attention don’t let yourself want it so desperately that you have nothing left to negotiate with. You’ve given her everything and there’s nothing else left in your wooing bag of tricks. You’re on the back foot in this duo and that makes you look weak.

It’s only human nature to assume that anything you get for free is worth what you paid for it. Same thing in the dating department. If your date doesn’t have to do anything to win your affection, you’ve established your value.

There is no secret to why the guy who’s labeled cocky wins with the women over the nice guy. The cocky guy comes across stronger, more confident and possessing more value. Why? He doesn’t invest everything he’s got in the first few days or weeks of a relationship. He doesn’t compliment her on everything, he isn’t always available and at her beck and call and most importantly, he knows he’s not going to lose the woman if she’s not available when he’d like to do something. His attitude is “fine, I’d like to do something with you but I’ve got other things going on too so we’ll catch up soon.” Then he goes alone or asks someone else. He has other things to do and doesn’t need to sit by the phone or computer waiting for her to take notice of him

Now that I’ve written all this, I think this could (and should) apply to women as well.