Ever say the wrong thing?
Everyone everywhere says the wrong thing at the wrong time. We all do it and then immediately wish we could eat our words. I have asked an old friend when she was due only to find out she wasn’t pregnant.
There’s a song by an Australian group about wishing to live that day again and most of us can relate to that. When you’re in a relationship, there ARE things that you say that you’ll rarely overcome.
People ask Jayce and I if we ever argue and are we as happy as we appear to be and the answer is yes to both. Sure we argue. We live together and we work together which means we’re together nearly 24/7 and that’s a bit of stress on any relationship, but we seem to thrive. So what’s our secret we’ve been asked.
“Never say the words you can’t take back,” is our reply.
It’s easy to disagree without hurting the other person’s feelings and you’ll both end up feeling respected at bedtime. Concentrate on what you’re upset with, not with the person and you’ll never have to wish you hadn’t said those words.
You can mess up when she asks if you think she’s gaining weight. Even if you get it wrong, she’s not going to hate you. If you say in anger, “You’re nothing but a fat pig!” she’s never going to forget it. Never. Even if you work it out and things seem fine, some words last forever and she will never forget what you called her in anger.
All is NOT lost if you have made a really big oops but you have to hurry. If you’ve said something that’s going to linger for decades and you want to erase it, you have at best, 72 hours to make up for it and not have it etched on your sweetie’s heart forever.
1. Say you’re sorry and that you spoke out of anger and frustration and that you didn’t mean it.
2. Write down what you said on a small slip of paper and put it in your mouth and say that you would eat your words 1000 times if you could.
3. Nothing says I’m sorry better than chocolate.
4. Unless you’ve been REALLY bad, flowers are overkill.
5. Change the linen on the bed and tidy up the bedroom. Leave a note on their pillow telling how much you love them.
Picture this: you and your man are in romance heaven. Everything seems perfect! You and your partner are enjoying each other’s company. You are almost together 24/7 and then it seems like everything is falling into place. But then, you decide to talk about your thoughts, your feelings, and where you think the relationship is going. Once he finds out about your expectations, he suddenly starts backing off and keeping his distance. He doesn’t even return your calls anymore. It seems like he fell off the romance radar.
When women want to talk about their feelings, expectations, etc to their man, it is important to remember to not shock the guy. Try to be subtle and try not to overwhelm him. When she talks about her feelings, there may be certain expectations that she has. One of the reasons why some guys back away is because they might be thinking that you are expecting too much from them, especially if it’s early in the dating game. It is important that women take things slowly — have the talk when you know that your man is ready for it.
What is it about people who don’t know that they stink? Peee ewwww. I was shopping yesterday and stood behind a woman who was smartly dressed and looked like she had money. Well, her shoes looked expensive and she had a designer handbag and big rocks on her fingers but they might have all been fakes. Anyway, as I always do, I smiled and nodded that funny little hello that you do when you’re standing in the checkout line. And then it hit me. I took a deep breath and this woman smelled so bad that I know tears came out of my eyes. The body odor was enough to knock an elephant down half a mile away.
It seems that a growing number of us don’t trust our partner or spouse and we’re resorting to the latest technology to catch them doing something wrong.



