Okay, I don’t get it. I have always assumed that the younger generations were better educated than I was. They’ve had access to heaps of things that didn’t exist when I was going to school and college. So why are so many people 18-25 not using safe sex?

I read articles about this and I wonder how they could ignore all the information presented to them by the media and still have sex without condoms. I worry about people of any age having sex without condoms but the young ones are far more likely to have unprotected sex than people in my generation.

Condoms used properly can keep us from getting herpes, genital warts, gonorrhoea, syphilis, chlamydia and AIDS so why wouldn’t someone use one? I know someone is going to say that the feeling isn’t the same. Feeling dead isn’t too good either, pal. While unprotected sex is a big problem for men it’s often more serious for women. Ladies, if you refuse to have sex without a condom, guys will wear one.

So often we hear about the size of a man’s penis and whether big is better. Some women are convinced that unless they have a big penis inside them, they haven’t had good sex. Many other women say it’s not the size but the experience that makes all the difference to them. Remember this “It’s not the size of the organ, it’s the cathedral it plays in”.

This was written in the forum a while back and I think it’s still relevant.

Let’s talk about the size of a woman’s vagina.

The Kama Sutra (an ancient Indian book about sex) uses three terms to describe the size of women’s vagina. The three terms are rather like simplifying a bell curve, one that is divided into only three parts, rather than a smooth infinite curve like we discussed above. The Kama Sutra uses the terms “Rabbit,” “Doe,” and “Elephant” to describe the range of sizes of a women’s vagina. Obviously a woman with a vagina the size of a rabbit would have a small and probably shallow vagina. A woman with a vagina the size of a doe (a female deer) would have a medium size, and a woman labeled an elephant would have a deep and probably loose vagina.

So let’s say that Mr Right marries Ms Cute. And let’s say that Mr Right has a penis that is of average size. But lets say that Ms Cute has a vagina that is best described as an elephant vagina. Obviously those relative sizes are not the most opportune fit. Ms Cute’s vagina on the other hand could easily accommodate a very large penis. She may be what you currently hear described as a “Size Queen.” In other words, her vagina requires a larger penis to feel stimulated. That is not a statement about the size or adequacy of her husband’s penis so much as it is a statement about the size of her vagina.

Lets say on the other hand that same Mr Right marries Ms Tiny, who has a tiny vaginy. Mr Right would not be able to put his whole penis inside her without causing her discomfort and quite likely bladder infections.

My point is this, you CANNOT talk about the “inadequate” size of a man’s penis without also objectively describing the size of the woman’s vagina. Just as penises come in all sizes and girths, so do vaginas.

Do you wish something would happen to put excitement back into your sex life? Do you find yourself more often than not sitting in front in the TV or computer screen when you could be hanging off the chandelier naked?

In the event you answered yes to either of these questions, you’re not alone. In a recent study nearly 2/3 of the ladies interviewed who’d been married or attached for more than five but less than 10 years said their sex life was boring. More than 25% of the women in the study said their entire lives were boring.

Why not attempt new sexual positions to guide spice up your hum drum sex life? Too many couples have intercourse primarily in the missionary position – and many tell us this is the ONLY position they ever use. In the past it was thought that the missionary position was very good for deep penetration to allow the sperm to hit their target for conception. Sadly, as a result, a lot of women don’t get off because they get no clitoral stimulation from the missionary position. For women with a shortened vagina the missionary position can occasionally be really painful and uncomfortable. Postmenopausal women can experience painful sexual intercourse if they have vaginal dryness or thinning of the vaginal wall. I know this sounds disgusting but I promise you, you’ll be old one day too.

Several ladies, me included, truly like being on top. It allows me to control my own orgasm and determine the speed at which things happen.

If it’s time to have a lot more than same old same old quickie – get creative. Try spooning or a fancy Kama Sutra position where you’ll feel like a pretzle made of rubber. The best bit is that you’re doing it together and there’s a joining of mind and body in love, passion and laughter.

In the event you or your partner have any mobility issues like those with chronic arthritis, bone and/or joint illness or any other condition that would hinder movement have, try propping up on pillows or down comforters which can be placed to to make sex not only hot and steamy but comfortable as well. Uncomfortable sex ends up being seldom sex which ends up being no sex at all.

It’s Spring — a time for renewal. Get kinky like you did in the “good old days”.

We all know how great sex feels physically and emotionally but what do you feel when the sex is, dare I say… bad. This sexy old broad doesn’t have a lot of experience with bad sex but I’ve talked with a couple of women recently who say it can sometimes be a problem.

One women said that she’d met a guy online and they’d emailed and chatted back and forth for a few weeks before starting to chat about sexy things. She told me that the guy could really turn her on with his words and she felt like she knew him inside and out before she met him.

“In my mind, I knew exactly how sex was going to be between us — I just knew,” she said. She went on to say, “Then the day came when we were to meet and he arrived not looking *exactly* like the photo he sent to me.”

She’d been looking forward to his visit for 3 weeks and when his looks didn’t quite match his photo she was willing to give him the benefit of doubt because sometimes we all have photos taken that make us look really good. They chatted for a while and went out to dinner and when they got home, she was expecting some hot stuff to happen. They’d been chatting, emailing and talking on the phone for weeks and weeks and she was ready for some fun in bed.

“I really like the guy but as a lover, he was really crap,” she said. “Kissing him felt like I was taking a tongue bath from a St. Bernard and his idea of foreplay was tweaking my nipples and grunting – I couldn’t wait for it to end.”

I thought, “wow, how disappointing it would be to have that happen after so much emotional energy had been put into anticipating a fantastic first meeting.”

It reminded me of my own first meeting after meeting my husband online back in 1994. Pretty much what she said to me about anticipating the meeting I could have said myself. Only my meeting was just perfect and hers was a disaster.

She asked me what I would have done in that situation and I have to admit I’m a very selfish lover. If I was her I would have said that it wasn’t working for me and I would have ended it. I don’t believe in pity fucks. I don’t think it serves either of you to “endure” a sexual experience.