Way too many people allow the size of their bodies to dictate whether they feel comfortable having sex. This is SO wrong. If you’re even a teensy bit guilty of that, let me smack you hard. If you’re sticking to only missionary and doggy for your sexual satisfaction, it’s time you loved that body you walk around in and start getting kinky with it!

Before we get too far, to those people who think larger men and women aren’t sexy, get over yourself. People are sexy whatever their size. You might think really really skinny people are sexy and someone else might think a skinny person isn’t sexy at all. We’re all programmed from birth to desire something different. So if you’re bigger than your best friend, don’t buy into the media hype that size 2 is all that will do.

You CAN have great sex at any size!

Don’t let your size dictate your self worth, your confidence or your sexiness because no matter what size you are, we’re all worried about how our bodies look naked. Now I’m short and round and there’s no way I’d sign up for the TV show, “How To Look Good Naked,” but my man loves my body just the way it is. He likes how it responds when he touches it.

I read about an experiment done by Marie Claire magazine, where they took a picture of a size 14 model and had two mobile billboards made. One with the caption: “I think I’m sexy. Do you?” and the other: “I think I’m fat. Do you?” The result? That almost the same amount of people agreed with the statement that they were looking at. The results tend to confirm that people see you very much the way that you see yourself. If you believe that you are sexy, so will others.

So when my husband says I’m sexy, he’s not talking about the large boobs, although I suppose that doesn’t hurt, and he’s not talking about my laugh, or smile I don’t think. I think my state of mind comes through. I feel sexy, therefore he sees me as sexy. Now I know some of you will think, “holy cow.. she’s 61 and she thinks she’s sexy???” It’s true. You can be sexy at any size and at any age! Your perception of yourself is what counts.

On SexyAds there is a huge group of men who love dating BBW ’s and having sex with big beautiful women. There’s a huge group of women who like having sex with BHM ’s big handsome men. It’s not just small to average size people who can have great sex!

If you have a poor body image because of your size, I suggest that you stand in front of the mirror naked for about 30 minutes or until you can tell that person in the mirror that he or she is sexy. Love yourself because this isn’t a trial run. You don’t get to live your life and then do it again. Be sexy now. Try all those positions you’ve wondered about. Test out those new toys. Get it on!

I was browsing around on wowowow.com and found an article by Shirley Lord who works for American Vogue magazine. She’s been in the beauty business for a long time. She previously was the beauty editor of Harper’s Bazaar before she left in 1980 to go to Vogue.

She says being in love and being loved back and having a good SEX life is VERY, VERY good for the skin.

The late and great cosmetic scientist, Marguerite Maury (a founder in London of aromatherapy, the use of essential oils to cure problems from acne to obesity), pointed out in The Secret of Life and Youth: “The sexual life of a woman is of the greatest importance to her appearance. Whereas the functions of the man are exogenous and extroverted and he will suffer most from premature old age by abuse of these functions (in other words overdoing it !), the woman- being introverted and endogenous –will grow older and swifter by deficiency” (not enough sex in her life).

In fact, the way you cope with life – your temperament and whether you can handle your problems or not — can also show significantly on your face. Losing your temper on a regular basis can age you. You have only to look in the mirror after a lover’s quarrel, tears or no tears, to see its affect on your looks. And what you see is your skin disturbed by signals sent from the brain.

She’s got more to say about how sex is good for your skin, so click to read it right here. The woman in this photo probably NEVER gets out of bed!

Let’s say you and your spouse haven’t had sex for so long that you can’t remember the last time you did. Not the day. Not the month. Maybe not even the season. Would you look for gratification elsewhere? Would you file for divorce? Or would you turn to your mate and say: “Honey, you know, I’ve been thinking. Why don’t we do it for the next 365 days in a row?”

That’s pretty much what happened to Charla and Brad Muller. Another example of an erotic adventure to increase intimacy, a second couple, Annie and Douglas Brown, embarked on a similar journey of 101 straight days with some sex every day.

Most committed couples have sex an average of twice a week so it’s a big thing for a couple to do it 365 days a year. The couples thought that this sex marathon they were living in would recharge their relationships. I guess if they really enjoyed it but I wonder if just once I’d wish, “not tonight!”

It is always possible that these two couples may also be on to something. I know I’m more in love just after having sex, so maybe they’re really really really in love with each other.

It started out when one of the women wanted to give her husband a spectacular 40th birthday present. It didn’t cost anything and it was something really special only she could give him. It’s got me thinking, I gotta tell you.

Her husband thought it was a good idea but apparently she’d had lots of good ideas that she never followed through on. Once he realized she was serious, he jumped on board in a jiffy.

Each couple has written a book about their experiences. “365 Nights” was written from the woman’s perspective and “Just Do It’ was written by the husband, although the idea came from his wife who said, “”I thought we don’t have anything else going on. It might kick-start our marriage.”

They changed venues frequently – a cabin on an ashram, a yurt in the Colorado Rockies, and in a hotel room in Las Vegas. “That’s why we scheduled all these little trips,” Annie said. “We knew it had the potential of getting monotonous.” And were it not for her competitive zeal, their streak might have died well short of 100 days. Annie even forced her husband to have sex during a bout of vertigo. “I’m not a quitter,” she said. “The night he had vertigo, I said, ‘I’m sorry, guy, but you’ve got to keep going.”‘

Once they reached their goal of 101 days, they didn’t have sex for a month. That tells me that I was right when I said I’d need a break in there on some days. Hell, she even made him have sex when he had vertigo. I’ve had vertigo and I swear I couldn’t have had sex with the world spinning around. It would have definitely have been called “barf sex.”

The women are regarded with admiration, if not always envy, by their girlfriends. “My first reaction was ‘please don’t tell my husband’,” said a friend of one of the women involved.

Can sex every day re-invigorate a relationship? If a lack of sex is the problem, maybe but I suspect there are a lot of things wrong when a relationship starts to fall apart. Addressing the problems and enjoying sex, even if it’s not every day is probably a better way to have a happy relationship. My sweetie told me early on that we’d always have just the right amount of sex and he’s still right.

Shoshana Bulow, a psychotherapist and sex therapist in Manhattan, points out that sex is a lot more complicated than frequency. “There’s all sorts of reasons people lose interest in sex with their partner – disappointments, life cycles, financial issues,” she said. “Just having it isn’t going to resolve those.”

Today, the Browns report they have sex approximately six times a month, or double their frequency before their adventure. The Mullers decline to discuss their habits, except to say that they fall well within the national average.

Would you want a relationship where sex was a requirement every day?

I know I was born in the first half of the last century (holy cow that sounds old) and perhaps my friends and I have a very different perspective about sexual issues than say a women of 24 might have. I know I would never discuss my personal sexuality with my friends other than in general terms.

However, through my work on SexyAds.com and other places around the net, I find women who will tell everything right down to the smallest detail. There is a group who will say that this kind of talk will lead to the destruction of our society because the Bible says it’s wrong. The Bible talks about concubines but I’d venture a thought that the local pastor wouldn’t approve.

No, I think we should use what’s important to us and let our own internal guidance system lead us in what’s right and wrong. My own personal belief, so don’t waste your time being crappy in the comments.

There is also another group who believe much differently. They feel the sexual openness and information that the Internet has brought about and they’re happy about it.

One woman who’s about 45 now says that before she got online and started playing on adult chatrooms and forums, she’d only ever had sex in the missionary position and thought it was always supposed to hurt. It was a curse that women had to bear, just like the pain of childbirth. After talking with women who reported how much they enjoyed sex, she realized that maybe the problem was not sex but her own body.

After some searching, she found that the soap she was using to wash the vulvar area was causing real pain. Using a harsh soap can affect the area much like getting soap in your eye. So she switched to using plain water and within weeks she was looking forward to having sex with her husband.

Another woman on the more mature side confided to a group of women that she had always held a secret fetish about spanking and felt dirty whenever she gave thought to it. What a blessing when she found out she wasn’t alone. There are many women who are really into domestic discipline. She moved from feeling dirty to feeling normal.

We are sexual beings. That’s how we keep the human race going. We’re designed to crave sex and there’s nothing wrong with that. Of course we need to be safe and the Internet helps there with up-to-date information on sexually transmitted diseases, condom use and AIDS. Learn all you can and have a great time.