There’s sex everywhere you look it seems. It’s on every billboard, used by every magazine and TV for advertising and everyone seems to be talking about it all the time. All the time, that is, if YOU’RE not getting any at home.

Is it time you got back into the groove, sexually speaking? Has your get and go gotten up and left? It’s never too late to spice up your life and put some passion and intimacy back in. Stop living in a sexual vacuum and stop it today.

► Be cool. Begging isn’t pretty and rarely if ever works. Try spoiling your partner so they’ll want to have sex with you more often. I’ve always said the sexiest man wears an apron. Maybe if you’re a guy you could wear an apron with nothing on underneath. You could get lucky in the kitchen!

► Be attentive. Are you sure that everything you do with your partner is sexually satisfying to him or her? A friend of mine’s husband always rushes things and sex is often painful for her so she ends up not wanting it very often. Talk about what turns your lover on at non-sexual times. Then don’t forget!

► Be creative. Most every marriage counselor will tell you that a lot of marriages and relationships crap out because of too little or too boring sex. In our busy lives sex can sometimes seem like a mechanical habit and you think it’s all right until you discover that your partner is looking for something better outside your bedroom. Some couples find comfort in consistent or regular sexual experiences but most of us are hoping for a bit more excitement and inspiration in our lovemaking. You can be creative in a number of ways like varying tempos and positions, not confining yourselves to the bed, act out your sexual fantasies with role playing or toys. - I could go on but modesty forbids.

If you have a dud sex life it’s up to YOU to do something about it. No partner at all? Why didn’t you say so earlier? Check out the sexy dating I highly recommend!

Remember back in the early days of Playboy when it was finally OK to look at sexuality? In spite of what the internet has offered in terms of accessibility to pornography, Hugh Hefner taught us all that it was OK to get the magazine. The photos each showed off the sexuality of the woman but done so in such a classy manner that “normal” everyday people were buying the magazine. I only read the articles, I promise.

When the Internet was in nearly every house in the US it became OK to look at sexuality and many (most?) men had a field day looking at women who were sexual in a way that their wives and girlfriends were not. Here was a new sexual outlet that made them feel good and they took to it like a magnet jumps on a fridge.

Now that the world wide web is in nearly every house around the world, changes are still happening. Now it’s the women who are realizing that it’s not just OK to look at sexuality, it’s finally OK to “be” sexual in that safe environment.

When we first started SexyAds.com, in the sealed section we had a few raunchy photos of women submitted and few more raunchy photos of couples and the rest were men. There were heaps of regular photos too and still are. Lately we’re seeing more women comfortable with uploading a sexy photo of herself. Not necessarily nude, but the photos evoke a sexuality we weren’t seeing five or ten years ago.

Women are catching up to the fact that sexuality, touching and sex are an important part of a relationship and a woman wants to choose a guy who’s going to flip her switches.

Before you tell me, I know it’s possible to have a relationship without sex and be completely happy. I applaud those who can be happy in that situation. Don’t count me in that crowd because I crave touching, being touched and everything that goes with it. They don’t call me a sexy old broad for nothing.

In Australia there is a geek magazine that comes out monthly called APC and it reviews computers, printers, operating systems, games and all things a geek needs to know more about. In their March issue 2008 they ran a big spread about how to get lucky on the Second Life site. I nearly fell over. I don’t normally read the magazine because there’s so little geek in me it’s not funny, but sometimes when you’re on the throne and there’s nothing else to read, even the APC magazine will do. Anyway, according to the article, women join Second Life with all their parts - ready for action it seems. Men join and they get a body but they don’t get a penis. They have to buy one. The point I’m making is that 5 years ago APC wouldn’t have run a story about how to get lucky with cybersex. It’s OK to talk about it now.

We all have fantasies, I’m sure. Many women fantasize about slowly undressing before a roomful of appreciative males. Now most of us wouldn’t dare getting up on stage in a club and doing that (I’d worry that my pasties would fall off or that I’d get booed off the stage) but online that’s what is happening night after night. They are feeling sexy and safe in front of adoring crowds in video chatrooms all over the net.

Has this changed the morality of the people? I don’t think so. We’re all the same people we were before. We wouldn’t think about robbing a bank or stealing from our neighbors or conking our grandmother over the head. We still go to church and PTA meetings. We still vote and we’re still kind to animals. The difference is that we’re taking charge of our happiness in every aspect of our lives - including sex.

Ever since I was a young woman I have always tried to keep my pubic hair nicely trimmed. It wasn’t until I was older than most of you that it became fashionable to go Brazillian - shave it all off smoothly. I suppose that for those who are waxing, shaving and even lasering the hair off permanently, the lure is that feeling of neatness and cleanliness.

For me, there’s the issue of looking like an underage girl that puts me off going hairless and frankly I kinda like just a little touch of fuzz down there.

Like most of you who are coupled, Mr. SOB and I have tried shaving each other (ages ago to be honest) and I didn’t like him hairless either. Yes, I’ll admit that we both found the idea erotic but after that we both decided that we could live without it.

I’m not a very hairy person anywhere on my body, so I don’t know how I would feel if I had really thick, coarse hair down there. If that was the case, maybe I’d opt to whisk it all off too. What’s your preference?

I did hear about pubic hair barbers that will style your pubes in cute shapes. Isn’t that a bit much for something that is covered up most of the time? Maybe my age is showing.

I was shopping yesterday and came across the prettiest young woman I’ve seen in a long time. She had lovely auburn hair halfway down her back, a slender but curvy figure and a smile that would melt an army. I thought to myself that she must have the world by the tail.

It was just a passing moment and I kept shopping and when I got to the checkout, she was in front of me in the queue. That’s when I noticed it.

She was dirty. There were smudgy marks on her neck where she hadn’t washed for oh, a week or so probably. Not only that, she had a tank top on and the straps were not covering her bra straps. They were nasty. You know the ones I’m talking about.. those used to be white but they were grey with dirt.

How difficult is it to keep yourself clean? If she had money to shop, she had money to buy soap. Gross, Gross, Gross!

I couldn’t imagine sleeping with a dirty person. Maybe I’m too old and crotchety, I don’t know for sure, but to me dirty equals lazy and who wants to fuck a lazy person?

People, if you’re worried that people will think you’re religious if you keep yourself clean (cleanliness is next to godliness), it’s not going to happen. I never look at a clean person and think, “Geez, he must be holy.” Get in the shower! (not you, her over there)