While seniors represent about 14% of people with HIV, senior women represent 18%. One reason for the higher number of older women with HIV was found in a study recently published by Emory University . They surveyed 514 women over the age of 50, and found that their knowledge about transmission was poor. For example, approximately 50% of women believed that vasectomies and diaphragms prevent the spread of HIV. (these women are NOT at SexyAds)

Other reasons include the fact that many older women who have sex with men are also not using condoms, knowing they are past the point of having to worry about pregnancy. Women also erroneously think they can’t get HIV if they are not engaging in behaviors they deem as risky. The truth of the matter is this. HIV is a virus. It’s an opportunist. It does not care if you are male or female. It does not care who you have sex with, nor the numbers of people you have sex with. It certainly does not care about the color of your skin, your bank balance or your age.

HIV is primarily spread in two ways. First is though the sharing of contaminated intravenous drug equipment. Second, and more commonly, HIV is spread by unprotected sexual encounters. Women frequently are the receptive partners, and the receptive partners are more likely to become infected. Women who are post menopausal are at higher risk because of the changes in the vaginal tissue. With less estrogen to nourish the vagina, the tissue atrophies (becomes thin) and there is less lubrication. A woman can easily get tiny tears in her vaginal tissues, thus leaving an opening for virus to gain entry to her blood stream.

What’s a sexy older woman to do?

Make sure that you know your own HIV status. You can contact your health care provider, or (if you want anonymous testing) the local health department for testing. Know your partners history (this goes for both male AND female partners ladies!). Do they have a history of multiple partners and unprotected sexual encounters? Have they been tested? When? Did they get a follow up test at 6 months? What were the results?

Condoms and lubrication are essential. Use them not only on your partners body parts that may be entering you, but also on any toys you may be utilizing as well There are several online and confidential sources to purchase lubricants, condoms and gloves.

Limit your exposure when possible. Think twice if you are engaging in high risk behavior with a casual or new partner.

We know that sexual activity does not stop just because a person reaches a certain age. Let’s stay healthy so we can continue the horizontal hokey pokey til we drop. That’s what it’s all about, right? LOL

I was scanning ads this morning and I noticed there were more than 5 ads from men who seemed to be apologizing for the size of their penises.

“My dick is only 5 1/2″ long but it’s really fat to make up for its shortness,” is one I read. I just wanted to put my arms around him and tell him that as long as his dick is bigger than a champagne cork, it’s not about the size. Very few women (and none that I’ve met personally) have sex with a dick. It’s ALWAYS attached to a man. It’s how the man uses the dick, it’s what he says to make her feel sexy, it’s how he touches her and it’s probably a lot more things but the size of the penis is not the most important thing for most women.

I have never ever seen a woman say, “My pussy is really big and loose but I have a great personality that makes up for it,” or “My pussy is very very small so sex won’t be much fun with me.” I see women who are apologetic about the lack of boobage size or the extra padding on the backside. I’ve never seen a man say, “I’ve got a huge beer belly, but I’m a lot of fun.”

I’ve often wondered if women who require a man with a huge dick have very poor vaginal muscle control so a big dick feels better. To them I say, “get thee kegeling!” Don’t yell at me if I’m wrong. I’ve got one of those vagina things myself and size has never been as important as how sexy I feel when I’m with the guy it’s attached to.

Personally I wouldn’t want to know anything about the size of a man’s penis before he says hello to me. If I like him, there’s always time to learn about his penis and if I don’t like him, why bother?

Redhotandblue suggested this article by Johneen Manning for Today’s news. Gotta love someone who loves to cuddle.

Is love a biochemical by-product? Oxytocin explains the importance of foreplay and may even show that women in committed relationships have better sex!

Research suggests that if a love potion does in fact exist, the mammalian hormone called oxytocin is likely the key ingredient.

Oxytocin is a hormone produced naturally in the hypothalamus in the brain. Studies have shown that oxytocin is associated with our ability to mediate emotional experiences in close relationships and maintain healthy psychological boundaries.

In studies with non-human mammals, oxytocin has been shown to promote nest building and pup retrieval, acceptance of adopted offspring, and the formation of adult pair-bonds. This important hormone is naturally released in response to a variety of environmental stimuli including skin-to-skin contact, uterine or cervical stimulation during sex, nipple stimulation in lactating women, and as the result of a baby moving down the birth canal.

In humans, oxytocin stimulates milk ejection during lactation, uterine contraction during birth, and is released during sexual orgasm in both men and women.

Research has shown that women who were currently involved in a committed relationship experienced greater oxytocin swells in response to positive emotions than single women.

Oxytocin Loves Foreplay

Being touched (anywhere on the body) causes a rise in oxytocin levels, initiating a series of events that lead to biological and psychological arousal, including a rush of endorphins (the body’s natural pain
relievers) as well as a spike in testosterone levels (the hormone that kick-starts sex drive).

Oxytocin heightens that warm and fuzzy bonding feeling, increasing sexual receptiveness and intimacy. Considered by many to be the key lubricant in the machinery of sex, oxytocin also increases the desire to be touched further, reinforcing the cycle of sex hormone escalation.

Binghamton University psychology professor Diane Witt says that since the release of oxytocin can be classically conditioned, after repeatedly having sex with the same partner, just seeing that partner could release more oxytocin, making you want to be with that person all the more.

Oxytocin’s affect on the brain is greatly dependent on its interactions with sex hormones such as estrogen, progesterone, testosterone and corticosterone. However, its effectiveness as a the ‘cuddle hormone’ requires the presence of estrogen. This fact may partially explain some of the behavioral differences between the sexes when it comes to intimacy, the desire for cuddling, and even touch’s role in the ability to achieve orgasm, since women’s bodies produce vastly more estrogen than the male body.

Do Women In Committed Relationships Have Better Sex?

Research has shown that women who were currently involved in a committed relationship experienced greater oxytocin swells in response to positive emotions than single women, leading researchers to speculate that a close, regular relationship may influence the responsiveness of the hormone. So, do the math:

Oxytocin is produced as a result of touch.
Oxytocin causes feelings of intimacy and closeness
Oxytocin triggers powerful orgasms
Women in committed relationships experience enhanced oxytocin production

It does really work.

Kissing is optional, but what a pick up when the day is great, to make it greater. If you need a physical/mental boost during the day, this is perfect.

Fellatio. Lets not beat around the bush, ladiesour men love it, want it, and fantasize about it regularly. The problem: many women I know want to pleasure their men, but cant stomach the thought of swallowing. However, the last time I checked, all these women absolutely love to be on the receiving end of a little tongue action down there. So whats a girl to do? For the love of pleasure, reciprocation, and good sex, I thought Id share some ways to make it easy to blow without the blow.

Use your hands. Your mouth and tongue dont have to do all the work. Use your tongue and lips to spread saliva up and down his shaft to lube it up for your hands. Then, while you French-kiss his member, you can also stroke him with your hands and occasionally run your index finger over the head of his penis, the same way you might use your tongue. Pay attention to his breathing and physical cues to determine when he is about to come, then allow your hands to seamlessly take over where your mouth was, and let him come in the palm of your hand instead. Keep your mouth and face close to his erection; the wet and warm sensation is important. Whatever you do, dont stop the motion with your hands! Coming in your mouth is less important than continuing the stimulation up until the critical moment.

Get a facial. Have you ever watched porn with your lover? Youll notice that nine times out of ten, the hot action ends in a face shotwhen the dude ejaculates on her face. For a lot of men, this is HOT. Continue to use your hands, but instead of using your hand to prevent him from ejaculating in your mouth, keep your hands going and let him release on your face. Note: if you have watched porn flicks and are horrified by the amount of dew in his spew, dont be alarmed. Rumor has that most of these stunt men take serious zinc supplements to boost their output, so this doesnt reflect what you might expect from your partner.

Lube your boobs. Dont want to use your mouth? Use your breasts! Get some fabulous lubricant and juice up your cleavage. Then use your hands and breasts to surround him with some luscious bosom action. Hell likely take great pleasure writhing in your succulence, and wont even miss your mouth.

Its okay to spit. If youre concerned less about having him climax in your mouth and more about what to do with it if you can’t bear to swallow, be creative and keep a discreet spittoon handy. (A girlfriend once confessed that she fertilized the potted plant by the bed on occasion.) A tissue works just as well. Some women I know share the concern that spitting may send the wrong message to their man. I think the pleasure of coming in your mouth will overrule any negative feelings that may result from not swallowing. However, when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom, I think the most important thing is not to take our lovers feelings lightly, but to be respectful of any sensitivities. What he doesnt know wont hurt himbe subtle about it and everyone wins.

Give him hot licks on the side. Yet another variation of using your mouth and hands, but avoiding the sticky stuffsuckle his frenulum. Specifically, the area directly underneath his glans. This area is extremely responsive to light and soft stimulation. Put your sweet kisses here, continue stimulating with your hands as well, and aim his rocket toward his belly. Chances are he wont even notice hes not coming in your mouth.

Keep a chaser handy. Im talking whiskey. Swirl a bit in your mouth before going down on your manthat tingling warm sensation on your tongue is magnified on your mans sensitive skin, and can be a massive pleasure booster. When you bring him to orgasm, youve got a couple choices: youve got an instant antiseptic to quell any gag effect and youve got your discreet spittoon if you need one. Dont drink? No worries, try Chloraseptic throat spray or Mentos. Same tingly freshness.

Skip the swallow; go for the gullet. Okay, admittedly, this is a bonus round for women whose biggest issue with swallowing might be a psychological one. Im talking deep throating here. If you time it right, your throat will soften enough to let the head of his penis just past your uvula. Your natural inclination toward gulping motions will massage his corona in a way thats bound to bring him immense and immediate pleasure. The best part: any emissions from your man go straight down your throat without passing over your taste buds. Tips to make it easier: try bourbon, Chloraseptic, or even rinsing your mouth with childrens teething gel to numb the back of your throat. It will decrease your gag reflex, and allow you to relax and enjoy pleasing your lover.

Slurp!