A lot of men can get frustrated when they have trouble getting their wife or partner in the mood for sexual intimacy. Do men really have stronger sex drives than women? Yes, they do. Most men seem to be able to be aroused at the peek of a boob through a sleeveless blouse. Sadly, most women aren’t that easily turned on.

Women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. We are more easily stimulated when we feel sensual, sexy, and attractive as a woman. Of course every relationship is different but what we see in blogs and ads and forum posts, it appears that quite a lot of men have trouble getting their lover/spouse interested in sex when they want it.

Here are some ideas to help men to become closer and more intimate so their sex lives can be healthy and satisfying for both partners.

* Show appreciation – be specific and clear by noticing and expressing your gratitude for her. Notice when she’s done something for you. Remember that she didn’t sign on to be your maid and maybe you should let her know that her attention to your stuff is appreciated.

* Be kind, considerate, and compassionate, – noticing and caring for her needs; treat her as you did when you first were in love.

* Let her know that you desire her – be open as you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

* Take some notice of the wonderful traits she has that you love her for – and share what you notice with her.

* Compliment her – what is beautiful about your wife? Notice her physical beauty as well as her character, mind, creativity, etc. The more sexy a woman feels the more she is inclined to desire physical intimacy. Tell her she’s sexy.

* Tell her how important she is to you – it is often difficult for a woman to want to be intimate when she does not feel important or significant.

* Let her know she is the most important person in your life – women respond best when they feel they are the most significant woman in your life.

* Be affectionate – in non-sexual ways without an ulterior motive. It will tell her that she’s important to you in other ways than sexual.

These suggestions are not ways to get in her pants. Women know when you’re doing that. These are ideas to bring a closeness to the relationship that will ultimately lead to a spicier sex life. Bless you wife/partner and she will want to bless you too.

I say again that for me, the sexiest man on the planet is the one helping with the dishes or sweeping the patio or feeding the cats. It means that these jobs aren’t mine because I have a set of tits. These are our chores because we share this space together.

I know that some of you will say that you’re doing all these things and you’re still not getting sex. If that’s the case, I’m afraid there’s a lot more wrong with your relationship than not getting enough sex.

So often we hear about the size of a man’s penis and whether big is better. Some women are convinced that unless they have a big penis inside them, they haven’t had good sex. Many other women say it’s not the size but the experience that makes all the difference to them. Remember this “It’s not the size of the organ, it’s the cathedral it plays in”.

This was written in the forum a while back and I think it’s still relevant.

Let’s talk about the size of a woman’s vagina.

The Kama Sutra (an ancient Indian book about sex) uses three terms to describe the size of women’s vagina. The three terms are rather like simplifying a bell curve, one that is divided into only three parts, rather than a smooth infinite curve like we discussed above. The Kama Sutra uses the terms “Rabbit,” “Doe,” and “Elephant” to describe the range of sizes of a women’s vagina. Obviously a woman with a vagina the size of a rabbit would have a small and probably shallow vagina. A woman with a vagina the size of a doe (a female deer) would have a medium size, and a woman labeled an elephant would have a deep and probably loose vagina.

So let’s say that Mr Right marries Ms Cute. And let’s say that Mr Right has a penis that is of average size. But lets say that Ms Cute has a vagina that is best described as an elephant vagina. Obviously those relative sizes are not the most opportune fit. Ms Cute’s vagina on the other hand could easily accommodate a very large penis. She may be what you currently hear described as a “Size Queen.” In other words, her vagina requires a larger penis to feel stimulated. That is not a statement about the size or adequacy of her husband’s penis so much as it is a statement about the size of her vagina.

Lets say on the other hand that same Mr Right marries Ms Tiny, who has a tiny vaginy. Mr Right would not be able to put his whole penis inside her without causing her discomfort and quite likely bladder infections.

My point is this, you CANNOT talk about the “inadequate” size of a man’s penis without also objectively describing the size of the woman’s vagina. Just as penises come in all sizes and girths, so do vaginas.

Do you wish something would happen to put excitement back into your sex life? Do you find yourself more often than not sitting in front in the TV or computer screen when you could be hanging off the chandelier naked?

In the event you answered yes to either of these questions, you’re not alone. In a recent study nearly 2/3 of the ladies interviewed who’d been married or attached for more than five but less than 10 years said their sex life was boring. More than 25% of the women in the study said their entire lives were boring.

Why not attempt new sexual positions to guide spice up your hum drum sex life? Too many couples have intercourse primarily in the missionary position – and many tell us this is the ONLY position they ever use. In the past it was thought that the missionary position was very good for deep penetration to allow the sperm to hit their target for conception. Sadly, as a result, a lot of women don’t get off because they get no clitoral stimulation from the missionary position. For women with a shortened vagina the missionary position can occasionally be really painful and uncomfortable. Postmenopausal women can experience painful sexual intercourse if they have vaginal dryness or thinning of the vaginal wall. I know this sounds disgusting but I promise you, you’ll be old one day too.

Several ladies, me included, truly like being on top. It allows me to control my own orgasm and determine the speed at which things happen.

If it’s time to have a lot more than same old same old quickie – get creative. Try spooning or a fancy Kama Sutra position where you’ll feel like a pretzle made of rubber. The best bit is that you’re doing it together and there’s a joining of mind and body in love, passion and laughter.

In the event you or your partner have any mobility issues like those with chronic arthritis, bone and/or joint illness or any other condition that would hinder movement have, try propping up on pillows or down comforters which can be placed to to make sex not only hot and steamy but comfortable as well. Uncomfortable sex ends up being seldom sex which ends up being no sex at all.

It’s Spring — a time for renewal. Get kinky like you did in the “good old days”.

How many women view porn on the net?

If you’d asked me that question 6 months ago I would have said, “Maybe a few,” but then I’d be wrong. Recently SexyAds.com conducted a survey about how the internet and dating sites had changed people’s ideas on sexuality.

Do women watch porn? Is flirting online “cheating”? Are people more likely to be more sexually adventurous since the advent of the internet? These are just some of the questions we wanted answers to.

We found some interesting results.

For example, 91% of the respondents view porn online, and some 56% find it at least somewhat satisfying. A greater pecentage of men than women vist porn sites, although a suprising 80% of women said they visit at least “One or two porn sites”, and only 19% of women said they did not find online porn satisfying. Even older women look at porn, although not as big a percentage as younger women (this is also true of men). 76% of women over 40 told us they look at porn, although only 44% found it satisfying. For women over 60, 78% look at porn and 53% found it at least somewhat satisfying.

The internet has changed at least some people’s views about sex and sexuality. 63% of people told us they feel more sexually adventurous since starting to surf the net, although only 31% said they actually feel sexier, with 38% being undecided about that.

The internet has made it easier for people to fulfill their sexual fantasies it seems. 75% said that the internet has made it easier to fulfil their sexual fantasies, (78% or women and 74% of men) while only 63% say they feel sexier (62% of men and 69% of women).

83% of people told us they thought online flirting was not cheating and 71% indicated they’d be more likely to consider an affair.

You can see all the preliminary results and breakdowns by gender and age here.

While we’ve compiled the preliminary results already, you can still take the sexuality survey here