Ever since I was a young woman I have always tried to keep my pubic hair nicely trimmed. It wasn’t until I was older than most of you that it became fashionable to go Brazillian – shave it all off smoothly. I suppose that for those who are waxing, shaving and even lasering the hair off permanently, the lure is that feeling of neatness and cleanliness.

For me, there’s the issue of looking like an underage girl that puts me off going hairless and frankly I kinda like just a little touch of fuzz down there.

Like most of you who are coupled, Mr. SOB and I have tried shaving each other (ages ago to be honest) and I didn’t like him hairless either. Yes, I’ll admit that we both found the idea erotic but after that we both decided that we could live without it.

I’m not a very hairy person anywhere on my body, so I don’t know how I would feel if I had really thick, coarse hair down there. If that was the case, maybe I’d opt to whisk it all off too. What’s your preference?

I did hear about pubic hair barbers that will style your pubes in cute shapes. Isn’t that a bit much for something that is covered up most of the time? Maybe my age is showing.

I was shopping yesterday and came across the prettiest young woman I’ve seen in a long time. She had lovely auburn hair halfway down her back, a slender but curvy figure and a smile that would melt an army. I thought to myself that she must have the world by the tail.

It was just a passing moment and I kept shopping and when I got to the checkout, she was in front of me in the queue. That’s when I noticed it.

She was dirty. There were smudgy marks on her neck where she hadn’t washed for oh, a week or so probably. Not only that, she had a tank top on and the straps were not covering her bra straps. They were nasty. You know the ones I’m talking about.. those used to be white but they were grey with dirt.

How difficult is it to keep yourself clean? If she had money to shop, she had money to buy soap. Gross, Gross, Gross!

I couldn’t imagine sleeping with a dirty person. Maybe I’m too old and crotchety, I don’t know for sure, but to me dirty equals lazy and who wants to fuck a lazy person?

People, if you’re worried that people will think you’re religious if you keep yourself clean (cleanliness is next to godliness), it’s not going to happen. I never look at a clean person and think, “Geez, he must be holy.” Get in the shower! (not you, her over there)

Sex is about pleasure, so stop worrying about reaching the goal posts and enjoy the journey. You’d watch a football game even if your favorite team doesn’t score, right? It’s the same thing. Leave your ego outside the bedroom door and start getting the pleasure about of enjoying each other’s bodies.

The first thing to do is to talk about what turns each of you on. Remember that what each of you says is not about hurting anyone’s feelings. The more sexual information you can take on board about your partner, the better lover you will be.

Plan a time when you can light candles, slowly undress each other, cuddle and share things that turn you on. Let your partner know it matters what they like because you want them to feel good. Don’t forget that it’s all about the journey and this will put you both at ease.

Many women have inhibitions about their bodies and that can affect how they respond sexually. All women want to feel sexy and desired, so tell her how excited she gets you, and compliment her best features. If your lover is self-conscious she’s not going to really get into the moment. Once she knows how beautiful you think she is or how she smells or tastes, she’ll begin to relax. This can’t be a one-off occurence though — she’ll be checking next time to see if you still feel the same way.

While we’re on the subject of women, if you make a point of telling her she’s desirable at other times than in bed, she’ll be looking forward to that next sexual encounter with you.

Can someone truly masturbate too much? Is five times a day too much? Six, ten? Orgasms are such a wonderful thing, why shouldn’t we experience as many of them as we can? I myself am quite fond of a mind blowing orgasm…I certainly don’t want to deny myself of that gorgeous release from time to time.

But what about masturbation addiction? What about those people who have a compulsive need to masturbate every waking moment?

The high from masturbation addiction comes from the flood of chemicals that are released into the brain during orgasm. As the brain begins to crave this high, the addict trains himself to climax quicker and more often. In addition, the addict becomes accustomed to the sensations of masturbation, sometimes to the point that “normal” sexual activity is not satisfying.

Woody Allen had a line in one of his movies: “I’m good at sex; I practice a lot when I’m alone.” While that may come across as a funny line, it underscores the physical problem with masturbation addiction. A masturbation addict becomes accomplished at short, intense activity with a quick climax. Unfortunately, this isn’t very satisfying to a spouse in a sexual relationship.

Sex addiction is a symptom of an unhealthy approach toward relationships. The first step toward a healthy relationship is honesty. When you are honest with someone you show him or her you care about them. In effect you say,

“I love you so much I want you to know about me. I want you to see the good in me so that you can enjoy it and share in it. I won’t hide my flaws because if I deceive you now, you will be hurt even worse later on by my bad side.”

“If I tell you the truth, whatever problems we have, we can probably work out.”

“I’d rather have an honest relationship with you built through hard work than one hastily thrown together on lies and illusions that will not stand the test of time.”

Masturbation addiction can be cured just like overeating can be cured and alcoholism can be cured. So if you’re suffering under tremendous guilt because masturbation is causing problems in your life or your relationships, there is help out there.