Lots of people have pondered the question should I have sex on the first date or not? I’m of the not persuasion. While I’m as horny as the rest of you, I think sex on the first date is way more about the game than about intimacy between two people.

First sex can be awkward when the guy has decided early on in the evening that sex is going to happen and when it does, 5 minutes into it and he’s all over and done with. As a woman, I’ll admit that I’ve faked orgasm a couple of times in my life just to make it be over, but I felt justified because he faked the foreplay.

Maybe I’m telling too many stories here but I learned early on that most people respect a person who doesn’t play the slut role and is a bit tough to get. I don’t think many people want to date someone who sleeps around with anyone — male or female.

I don’t mean in the way that all the surveys are done. Men think of sex every other second or so if you believe all that stuff. I want to know how often you are just sitting there feeling sexy. Maybe you should also give an age range as well because it would be interesting to know if you’re an 18 year old guy or a 60 year old woman.

A friend of mine confided in me that one of their cars is a big, diesel SUV that vibrates way more than it should and on long trips to the bush she stays in a constant state of arousal. The last trip they took up north (remember I’m upside down so north is hotter than south) they had to pull off 3 times “for just a little quickie” she said. I kept thinking to myself.. geez, she’s over 50 - I’m over 50 - but I’ve never had to ask him to pull over, so what’s wrong with me? I knew what to do.

I asked to borrow the car.

What things do you do that get you aroused every time? Porn flicks? Girlie magazines? Cosmo? Seeing a man in a pair of tight jeans?

When forced to think about it (like now) I’d have to admit that being in the bath, I can turn on more than the spa jets. There’s also a sex scene in the movie The Big Easy that is guaranteed to make me hop in the sack and stay there for at least one go.

Leave me some comments and I’ll write a new post with what always turns some people on.

Has your relationship gone a bit stale? Lost a bit of excitement? He’s not worshipping you like he did before? Spice up your love life with your own strip tease just for him.

A friend of mine who’s studying for a masters degree in nursing wrote to me about how a man can avoid a hiatal hernia during sex. If you’re a man who tries to delay his orgasm in order to make sex last longer, you might not be doing yourself any good. The muscle in your abdomen that you use to hold back from ejaculating can cause a hiatal hernia. It’s much better to go ahead and rip off a Big O and the come back later and go at it again.

His instructors also said it’s important not to lift a woman during sex because that also can cause serious abdominal damage because your mind is on sex and not on the heavy lifting. The more you know, the better able you are to avoid any health risks of sex. Sex is too much fun to hurt yourself unnecessarily!