Live video chat isn’t the same as anonymously answering a personal ad. While you can still be anonymous, you’re going to have to work a bit harder. If you need to be discreet, practice with your video cam before you turn on your video at SexyAds. This is a fun experience so don’t fill yourself with apprehensions about how it’s all going to work out.
The best tip I can give you is to visit the chatrooms and watch a few videos tp get a feel for how other folks interact. You’ll see some people in sexy lingerie or briefs, some all dressed up and some in their jammies – at any time of the day. There’s no excuse for not being “just right” because everyone else is come as you are and having a great time.

All the same rules apply though – don’t give out your personal information until you are convinced that it’s safe to share. Swap your life stories when you’re sure that this person is one you want and trust as a real friend. Anyone who pushes you for your personal contact details isn’t the one for you.

As always our advice is to let common sense be your guide and have a great time. Play out your fantasies, let the sizzle that’s been lurking deep down in side to bubble over and turn you into a wild person even if it’s just for an hour!

Remember that if anything happens that you don’t like – there is always the disconnect button and the help desk to report what’s happened.

Also a word to the folks who want to watch someone’s video, be polite, ask once and if you’re told no, leave it at that. If you DO watch someone’s video you’re gonna end up in a heap of trouble if you try to play director and tell the person on cam what to do. If that’s what you want, there are sites that let you pay for that. The men and women at SexyAds are flashing their bits for their own sexual thrill, not yours so take what they offer and enjoy it. They’ll ask if they need inspiration!

Sexy talk is probably the simplest and easiest way to take your lovemaking up several notches. It can range from very polite sayings like the prhase above to the other end of the spectrum which might make a hooker blush. Are there phrases that get YOU going when you hear them?

How about some of these ? Any of them hit a high note with you?

I love the way you kiss me…especially when you kiss me there!
I want to get naked with you right now.
Say my name when you do that!
I love you so much. Can you feel it?
Do you like the way that feels?
I love feeling your strong arms when you’re on top of me.
Use your mouth on me.
I love the things you do with your tongue.
You’re so damn gorgeous.
What’s that thing you do with your hand? I adore that!
Want to see what I really want? Come closer…
Strip for me, honey. Slow. I want to savor every inch of you.
Do you like the way that looks?
I’m going to control you tonight.
Use me as your toy.
Tell me what you want.
I’ll do anything for a lover like you…anything at all.
You’re the best lover I have ever had.
This is going to be the dirtiest night of your life.
Show me what you can do. I know you’re man enough!
You can have me any way you want.
Look, – handcuffs! You’re mine now
Don’t stop, harder!
You’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.
It drives me crazy when you look at me that way.
You know what I want. Give it to me.
I want you so bad – can you feel how much?
Just lie back and let me make you come.
You like that, don’t you? You like it when your woman does that to you?
Look how ready I am. Don’t you want to put your dick in there?
I adore how naughty you are.
You taste so good.
Come over here and ride me hard.
No one has ever made me come as hard as you can.
You make me so damn horny, baby!
I want to feel those sweet lips all over me.
Fuck me, honey. Right now.
I’m going to lick you and suck you until you come.
Want to make me scream? I’ll bet you can.
Get over here, big boy. Show me what you’re packing.
I love it when you nibble on my nipples.
Do that some more.
Your wish is my command.
Should I tie you up and make you take it, or are you going to be good?
Don’t you dare come until I say you can.
I love how big your cock gets when I talk to you like this.
Fuck me with your big, delicious dick.
How deep can you go? Let’s find out.
Lick every inch of me.
Only question is…where do you want to come?
How do you want me? On my knees? On my back? You choose.
Make me scream with that big dick of yours.
I’m going to suck you like a lollipop.
You give it to me better than anyone else ever could.
Do you like the way I fuck you, baby? Tell me.
Give me that big, fat baby-maker. You know what I want!
I’m going to do things to you that you’ve only fantasized about.
Give me that come, honey.
I want it in my mouth.
I want it all over me. Cover me with it.
Call me names. I love it when you call me your whore.
You can fuck harder than that. Give me everything you’ve got!
Make me scream like the naughty little slut I am.
Do you like it when I make you taste me?
I love sucking your rock-hard cock.
Tell me what you’re doing. I want to hear the words.
Touch yourself. Let me watch you.
Can you see what you’re doing to me?
Want a sex slave for the night? I’m yours!
Let’s see how many times I can make you come. Want to place bets?
Tell me your most secret fantasy.
Do you like knowing you’re the only one who fucks me?
How dirty can you get? How nasty are you?
Oh, yeah, baby…that’s how I like to see it.
Watch me touch myself. I love it when you watch.
I want you to come in my mouth.
Shoot it down my throat.
You want to feel me come? Touch me right there – right now!
Tell me when, baby. I’ll come with you.
How do I taste?
For the next hour, you’re my personal sex toy.
Pound me with that hard, fat cock!
Better be careful…if you don’t do what I tell you, I might stop.
What do you want tonight? The French Maid? The Hooker? The Schoolgirl?
Pretend you’re a porn star. Fuck me like one!
I bet you would like to do this in public. Admit it.
Think I can swallow your whole cock? Let’s find out.
I’m going to make you come until it hurts.
Play with my pussy.
Oh, God…that thing with your tongue. Do that again!
I love the way it sounds when you fuck me so hard. Hear it?
Tell me what you see. Describe it to me.
You like it when I spread my legs and take you in?
Come on, badass – show me how big you really are!
You can have any hole you want. Which one will it be?
Do you want more? Take it!
Maybe you should spank me – I’ve been very, very bad.
Show me how a real man fucks.
Can you come again? I want some more.
I love getting dirty and naughty with you.

You’ve finally talked your partner/lover into trying anal sex. Backdoor love can be fun and very sexy, but if it goes wrong the first time, I’ll wager they won’t try it again.

Use lots of lube. When you think you’ve used too much, use a bit more. The anus doesn’t produce any lubrication on its own so you need to provide it or it will hurt. Hurting is not sexy and it’s not fun. The thicker lubricant will probably work better since it won’t dry out before the deed’s done.

There are numbing creams but most physicians will tell you that’s a bad idea. Numbing pain keeps a person from feeling the pain and pain is how our body lets us know there’s a problem. So plenty of foreplay, lots of lube I recommend a condom just to be on the safe side of sex.

Let the receiver set the pace. Nothing is worse than someone in pain and the partner going at it hammer and tong. You’ve got plenty of time, plenty of patience and plenty of lube.. that’s all you need for a great anal experience.

Once you’re finished, don’t put your dick in any other hole. For some it’s gross but we’re talking health here. Take a shower together and then start all over again with sex a different way. Life’s good.

There are a lot of tricks to spice up a sex life. Toys, lingerie are a few, but I think the most fun, safe and enjoyable way for you and your partner is to go for role playing fantasies.

There ARE a few roles that most people can get into as a way to spice things up in the bedroom. Dress up is a part of this so let your creativity get you as wild as can be! Getting into character is all about fantasy and sex is where fantasy lives. So get past the rolling eyes and join in the fun. I’m going to. There are a lot of scenarios that can be played out.

How about the dominant man and poor French maid? I know it’s not politically correct but what the heck, it’s all about fantasy and there are NO wrongs in fantasy behind closed doors. The maid can wear as much or as little as she chooses. It’s always possible to be the rich widow and the butler.

There’s the doctor/patient fantasy that many people have. It’s a great way to explore your partner’s body intimately and very “up close”. Every woman needs a breast exam too.

Many couples are curious about Dominant/submissive play but are unsure how to begin. Being controlled by someone else, even by our own permission, can be very erotic. Especially erotic for those who’ve been a bit repressed in our sex lives. We’re “forced” to engage in sexual acts that we’ve been programmed to reject. If you try this role play, make sure you have limits on what’s acceptable and a safe word to stop the action. With mutual understanding this can be hugely rewarding. Next time, take turns and take the opposite role giving each of you a chance in the driver’s seat. And above all, think of the best role playing fantasy that you both will certainly enjoy.

How about you guys? Care to share your best role playing fantasies?