My mind keeps thinking about a very good friend of mine who’s gearing up to tell her parents today that her relationship is over. They’ve been together for as long as most people can remember but to most people around her, including her parents, it’s going to be a surprise. I often wonder why we keep the illusion that our relationships are wonderful when they really aren’t?

I also wonder about when we decide that we’re finally going to do something about our unhappiness that it takes “telling the family” before it’s really going to happen? I know in my previous life that once I told my family that I’d been miserable for years with a controlling son of a bitch for a husband that I truly knew I could go through it.

We’re hoping for our friend’s sake that her parents are supportive and will help her start a whole new life. She’ll have a whole new set of friends and she’ll begin to laugh – a lot. The house will be peaceful and friendly.

I’ve suggested that she look forward instead of back and not to worry so much about how he’ll cope but to focus on creating the life she wants.

If you’ve started over, do you have any suggestions for my friend?

If you ask me, I say share it! In this day and age, sex sharing sex stories is no longer taboo! There might be people who might disagree but in my opinion, if you have sex stories to tell, do share them!

Men and women are by nature very sexual beings. Being sexual is one of those very primordial things that we were born with. It’s not something that we should be ashamed of! As part of their sexual, they have every right to share their sexual stories.

Since the rise of the digital world, people can now find it very easy to share themselves and their stories with other people! They can shre their sex stories online! In the Internet age, anything and everything can be shared! One of the things that people can share with their fellow adults are their sex stories!

People,with their unique personalities and stories all have different stories to tell. One of the perks of sharing their different stories online ( whether they are stories of their sexual experiences or not) is that a lot of people can read it! People can read and learn something from your posts! Now consider this as you doing something good to people you don’t even know.

There might be some people who have exciting sexual stories to tell but are quite worried that they might be doing something wrong. Having apprehensions is a very normal thing but this shouldn’t stop people from sharing their stories. If you have something to say or share, you shouldn’t let people’s opinions bother you. If you feel like telling or sharing your exciting sex stories, then you better do so or you just might end up regretting it.

If you want to share your sex stories but you aren’t too sure with what to do, you can either blog it or share it in forums that are all over the Internet. I’m pretty sure that in time, you will get the hang of it. You might have apprehensions at the beginning but I’m sure that you will find it quite fun and entertaining to share your stories to the world! So what are you waiting for? If you have sex stories to tell, do tell them now or forever hold your peace in pieces!

/>It doesn’t happen often. I wish it did. My husband and I received a wedding invitation today for a wedding for two people who met through our website. Every time I hear about someone connecting I get such a rush of good feelings. It brings back the memories of when we met through a personal ad on the net in 1994. It’s been a long time, I know, but to us it seems just like yesterday that we couldn’t wait to get a hug. We were 10,000 miles apart and that’s not common, I know.

The wedding invitation is from a couple who met who lived in the same town but had never run into each other. She was a 40 year old single mother with 3 kids and he was 42 and never married, worse yet, he still lived with his parents! Who’d have ever put those two together? I run a dating site and I wouldn’t have done it.

They’ve been living together for nearly 5 years and have decided to get married. I asked DIYgurl why she waited and she said, “oh, no special reason but we wanted to get the pool put in last year and that took all the money we’d set aside for the wedding.”

You hear a lot about the scams running on dating sites and how all the people are fake and nobody gets dates and some of that is true, I won’t lie to you. Some people can’t get a date in their real life either so why they think the Internet is going to give them a personality is beyond me.

About those scams. There are big rooms in countries like the Philippines, Nigeria, Ivory Coast where there are tens of computers set up and people sitting behind them joining dating sites to get people to part with their money, join a porn site or pay money to get to a new country. We’ve had them on our site too and we have one person fully dedicated to kicking them off every day. It’s expensive! Imagine how many paid memberships we have to sell just to cover that person’s costs just to kick out scammers. It drives me nuts every time I think about it. I caught one in our chatroom one day and asked why they come to SexyAds when we made it so clear that we didn’t want them there. The person said, “we come here because there’s no competition.” Ugh!

Anyway, back to the wedding. It’s at the end of October and I’m going to save my money. We got to be good online friends with this couple and I’d love to go to their wedding.

I’ve been examining online dating experience for years, it’s my business to know as much about it as I can. People ask me all the time why two very similar people can have totally different experiences and I have to admit that I’ve been baffled by that too. I used to think it was just that one was more friendly than the other but it’s more than that.

I was chatting with some people last week. One was a guy who visits chat every day, has lots of friends and can’t get a date. I really like him a lot but not as much as another guy who gets every woman he sets his sights on. It’s sat on my mind all week long. Why does one get better results than the other?

When checking their profiles and ads, I think I found a clue. While both profiles say pretty much the same thing, one comes across with tons of energy. I could feel it when I read the ad.

Distinguished (read that older, mature, pot bellied) gentleman seeks exciting (read that not dead from the neck down) woman to have some fun. If you enjoy dining out, evenings with friends, freezing your ass off trying to catch a fish that you probably won’t eat for dinner or lounging in a hot tub overlooking some exotic island, why not send me a note. Your looks are not as important as your ability to smile.

I’m a positive person who wants to have fun as often as I can. Feel the same way? Tickle me.

Attached to this ad was a photo of a man about 47, greying a bit, not in the best physical condition but he has a huge smile on his face. Every mail he sends out gets a reply.

So I decided to ask him why he thinks he’s so successful. He initially said he didn’t think he was but he said he knew we could tell how many emails he got so modesty wasn’t required. He said that when he wrote to a woman, he looked at her profile and while he was writing the email he projected what he was saying to her emotionally.

“The universe is all energy, we’re all energy, the computer runs on energy, so from the beginning, I have sent a little mental note with each mail I send. For lack of a better way to put it, I send a bit of positive energy her way.”

Whoa.. I wasn’t prepared for that.

The Power and Mystery of Energy

I have to admit that I’ve been interested in how the energy of the universe connects all things. Everything on earth vibrates. Music is vibration and it can often be quite powerful. So maybe this guy is on to something.

I began to research a bit more.

The Chinese have been involved in body energy for thousands of years. We in the West have consistently put it down as primitive practices and often because we think our Western medicine is superior. But is it?

The American Indians have known about body energy and how we as humans are connected to the Earth. Again, many consider this to be primitive but is it in fact a more advanced ability?

We’ve all been around people who give off a “vibe”. I know you know what I’m talking about because it’s either a good or bad feeling that we get in our gut but can’t verbalize. We just KNOW it exists. That’s the mystery of energy.

Psychics and others in that realm have known about the energy humans have. It’s no secret to any of them that this guy can send a non-verbal telepathic message to prospective dates, so why do the rest of us resist it? Our religious training and beliefs could be one way that causes resistance. Personally I believe in God but I look at all the things done in the world “In God’s Name” and it makes me want to spit. The God I honor and worship isn’t a hateful God.

If you look at what Jesus said in the New Testament with an eye to how He felt about energy and how we treat one another, it says a lot. He said we can move mountains just by wanting it to happen. That’s energy and vibration, baby.

So if you’re looking for a new relationship through online dating, think about the energy you’re passing along to a prospective new partner. There might be some room for improvement there. Take a page from the guy on our dating site who gets so much action. Use the energy you have at your fingertips.