Sex on the first date
Lots of people have pondered the question should I have sex on the first date or not? I’m of the not persuasion. While I’m as horny as the rest of you, I think sex on the first date is way more about the game than about intimacy between two people.
First sex can be awkward when the guy has decided early on in the evening that sex is going to happen and when it does, 5 minutes into it and he’s all over and done with. As a woman, I’ll admit that I’ve faked orgasm a couple of times in my life just to make it be over, but I felt justified because he faked the foreplay.
Maybe I’m telling too many stories here but I learned early on that most people respect a person who doesn’t play the slut role and is a bit tough to get. I don’t think many people want to date someone who sleeps around with anyone — male or female.
Ahh… I used to be that girl… Think I got caught up in the game. However, did sleep with my boyfriend on the first date. Luckily he still wanted to date me, so can’t have been all bad. On the other hand, he slept with me on the first date as well.. I think it’s fine as long as both persons are agreeing on what’s going on. If it’s just sex, it’s just sex. If one part is expecting more, then that’s when it gets ugly. Anyway, just my 2 cents.
i agree!
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Hear Hear! I agree wholeheartedly. “Giving it up” too soon, especially on the first date, removes the adventure and wonderment in dating. And, if you’re looking for a serious relationship with marriage in mind, having sex right away can easily lead your partner to question if you have the kind of character and values they are seeking for a long-term relationship. Good post!
Mai, I think a woman can chose for the moment during the first date. I just remembered all the verbal and small erotic foreplay that happens during the first date that shows that the chemistry is really strong between the two of you.
If a second date comes out of it, then great. If it doesn’t, why do we have to feel cheap about it?
Sex on the first date………wow. BTw thanks for coming to my blog
i agree. it’s a ‘date’ to potentially start a relationship. if you have sex the first time, then what is there to wait for? and does that actually help the relationship? but it’s funny how you said you’ve faked an orgasm lol… i wrote about that in my blog http://datcurious.com because i heard every woman has done that lol
Wow! Hot article!
I think the choice to have sex or not is a very personal thing. Its not up to me to judge how other should or shouldn’t people behave. I know what I would and wouldn’t feel comfortable doing. In life, we all learn through experience. Whether you learn to love, respect and accept yourself has a big influence on your choices.
I agree with you all the way, you should never have sex on the first date. Great blog!
Yep, add me to the group of those that don’t put out on the first date. Luckily I don’t have to worry about dating anymore, but I could never have done it way back then. It has to be about more than just having sex; there has to be some time to build feelings and a relationship.
Hallo! He! He! I agree with u on this totally! Have a nice day!
Now that I’m married I wish I HAD done IT on all those first dates…it would make up for all the times I dont get it now! lol
I love having Sex on da First Date*
Pitter Patter let’s get at ‘er!!
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a lot of girls i dated for over a Year we got Funky da first night*
what killed me were the Number where U were having an incredible first Date No Go – too bad cuz it wouldda been thee Icing on da Cake as we all know U don’t get those times back – if yer Enjoying one another’s company go for it*
I am engaged so I might get myself into trouble for saying too much. When I was in university sex seemed to be the norm on the first date. It seems to be the norm for a lot of people over here in NZ. I am nt so keen on the idea. I am originally from Zimbabwe which has a really high HIV/AIDS prevelance so I was very careful about where I went. I know I few people who have even gotten pregnant on the first date – how sad and unsafe is that? Sex on the first date is a NO for me.