Shut up, already

My last post was all about hitting the dating target. It’s important to know what you’re looking for and then search for that but that’s only half the equation as I learned this morning. Ok, I have always known there were people who would write to someone without reading their profile or ad on an adult dating site but today I found a guy who was actively seeking someone who didn’t want him.

He’s a straight guy who’s looking for a woman so when I read one of his comments to a woman I was left scratching my head.

“I know you’re a lesbian but I think if you spent at least one evening with me I could turn you around. I’ve got the best moves in the country.”

I thought, “you’re an idiot! Shut up already!” This man will never get a woman who’s seeking another woman for a relationship to meet him for a cozy evening for two. It’s just not going to happen.

I was just about to write to this guy and explain why I thought his approach was headed in the wrong direction when I decided to see what his other comments have been. Sure enough, he’d sent that same comment to 54 lesbians. Talk about shut up already! He’s joined an adult dating site looking for a woman and his choices are only women who aren’t the slightest bit interested in dating him. They probably don’t want to know him.

If you’re looking for a date or a new relationship, know the type of person you’re seeking and actively go after that, but keep in mind what the other person is seeking as well. I don’t think this guy is going to get lucky anytime soon and with all the effort he’s putting in, it’s sad to see it wasted.