What do you do with a double bagger?

The title of this post was the subject line in an email I received over the weekend. It’s been a long time since I heard the phrase double bagger but I knew instantly what the guy meant. For those of you who’ve been living under a rock for decades, when your date is so ugly you have to put a bag over her head just to have sex with her - well a double bagger is when you put a bag on your head too just in case hers falls off.

Have you ever met someone online who fudged the photo a bit? Oh hell, have you ever met someone for the first time after you’d exchanged photos and couldn’t tell which one she was in a crowd? That’s what happened to Larry. This woman had sent him a photo of herself when she was in high school. Just testing the water, apparently. Then she sent a photo when she was 25 or so. She’d put on a few pounds but was still fairly attractive. That’s it, she’s now 38, she says, and couldn’t wait to meet him.

They agreed to meet at Starbucks and he arrived right on time. He waited. He waited some more. He looked around and there was one woman sitting alone and she was looking around too. Could that be HER, he thought? Surely not. This woman was at least 50 and weighed nearly 250 pounds. The woman in the photo weighed maybe 145. His back was to her and he’d not caught her eye, so he decided to wait some more.

A few minutes later he turned around and she was looking at him at the same time and smiled with joy at recognizing him and waved for him to come over.

He said it was the longest walk in his life.

Not because she was “fucking ugly” but because he was deceived. (I’m sure fucking ugly probably had something to do with it!)

When asked why she looked so different from the photo she’d sent him, she said that if she’d sent him a current photo he wouldn’t have shown up. (no duh)

So that leaves us with the question, what DO you do with a double bagger situation like that? Do you put everything in the past and go on to find out if the person is really nice after all or do you get up and walk out because you feel deceived?

I thought about it for about an hour and decided that if it happened to me, I’d stay and see if there was anything about this person that could get me interested even if it was just for friendship. I think we learn something from everyone we meet and we usually learn something about ourselves too.

What did he do? He left. He said he was probably rude when he told her that if she’d trusted him enough beforehand he’d have still met her because he really enjoyed their communication. He told her that if a friendship didn’t have trust it had nothing and he turned around and walked out.