What makes a woman respond to your ad?

At a site like SexyAds.com you’d think making her feel sexy would be the number one answer but in fact it’s not. Women come to a site like ours because they’re looking for something and most of them have needs bigger than needing to feel sexy.

So what is it that some guys have and others don’t that makes women reply to them over and over again? Don’t stress about it any more because there is no “secret”. These men have figured out what the women need and they give it to them. It’s that simple.

What do women need?

It’s not the same for all women but there are a few things that come up time and time again when we ask women what they’re looking for at a community like SexyAds.

I’m looking for someone to make me laugh. I’ve worked all day and I haven’t talked with anyone who made a “connection” with me. I come here and email or chat with someone who makes me laugh and it’s all the better because he really wants me to laugh and to laugh with him.

I came here because I was referred by a friend ages ago but I stay because I feel validated as a woman and as a human being. It’s not all about sex here, although there’s plenty of that. I find men who like me just the way I am. I don’t have to be or do anything other than be nice and fun. I’m treated as an equal. I usually feel terrific when I leave the site because someone has made me feel worth listening to.

I peeked in to SexyAds purely on curiosity. I’ve always been a vanilla babe but there’s been this small part of me who wanted to know more. What were other people doing in the bedroom that I’d never tried? More importantly what were they doing that I’d never heard of before. For instance, I thought watersports had to do with waterskiing! LOL I’ve made so many friends, both male and female that I feel part of the community. There are always new things to learn though and I have a huge list of things I want to try out with a new partner once I settle on one!

By far more women said they go to a dating site to meet someone who’ll find them important enough to listen to. It’s not rocket science. Feeling sexy happens for most women after they get to know a man and begin to think what sex with him would be like. So if you’ve been writing that you “could lick her all night”, try going for her need for validation and acceptance. Check her ad and write about something in it that proves her words were important enough to read before replying. It does work.