What to do when he lies
I received a note from a SexyAds member today and thought I’d share bits of it with you. She wrote:
We’ve been dating exclusively for 5 months, seeing each other 4-5 times a week and having sex together. We do use condoms but I was beginning to feel safe enough to consider doing without them because we were exclusive. Last week he forgot his phone and I read two of his text messages. One was from a woman thanking him for a great time and the other was about plans for a first date when I will be at work. I was devastated and have not spoken to him since. Should I? I really like him but I feel awful.
Unless you are ready to accept that he needs more than one woman and you agree that it won’t bother you, there is no good that can come out of you speaking to him. That he went out with other women is no crime in my book. Swingers do it all the time. No, the problem as I see it is that he lied to you. He was dishonest when he said he would be exclusively dating you. He didn’t say he would be exclusive only when you weren’t working. You were exclusive to him and had the expectation of honesty in this relationship.
If you take him back, you must accept that you have set a precedent for putting up with his infidelity. I suggest sending him a text or email telling him why you don’t want to see him again and ask that he not contact you. Then move on. There are tons of great men on and offline now and heaps of them are looking for an exclusive relationship.
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I think she did the right thing. I was dating a lady and she was secretly placing ads on the internet. She was talking about us getting married and etc. If she really wanted the Internet thing we could have always did the spouse swap thing. I was young and would have went along with it. It was the fact she was hiding it that bothered me. I also found some booze she was hiding. But that is a different story.
I broke up with her, because I could not trust her.
hi,
i want to share that such kind of relation depends on trust & loyalty….but if u miss both then its better to let them go. this ‘ll be better for u & him.
once the trust is gone, I think there is no use.