Why didn’t you get a 2nd date?
I get mail from men and women every month or so saying they met someone at SexyAds through an ad or blog and they’ve had a terrific date. They meet in a public place and the date lasts much longer than they anticipated because they just enjoyed being together. There’s usually a bit of touching and a kiss or hug at the end of the date.
Then it’s a wave goodbye without any mention of another date.
What happened?
You just didn’t click in a way that the other person is looking for. Dating is like a game of craps. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose but it’s never the fault of the dice.
When we’re dating we’re looking for someone to excite us or educate us or love us or need us or any number of emotions depending on where we are in life at the time. Not getting a 2nd date is not a judgement. You won’t like everyone you date and you won’t feel like you’re judging them when you don’t want to see them again.
Don’t beat yourself up over it. On your next first date, don’t invest a lot of energy expecting anything to happen. Hang loose and enjoy meeting someone new. No anticipation and no expectations. If you meet someone fantastic and a relationship grows, that’s fantastic, but if it doesn’t, you haven’t lost anything and you’ve had a good time out. Maybe he or she will end up a long term friend and nothing more. Nobody can have too many friends.
Remember, life’s too short to waste it feeling bad that someone didn’t call you.
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Sometimes people both want to see the person again but are nervous and expect that if the other person really likes them, they’ll call. Unfortunately, that makes them both out of luck.
Someone once said something revealing to me, and I’ll share it with the readers here. He told me that women would get upset with him because his romantic, intensely interested approach would convince them that he felt more than he did. When I asked him why he would lead them on this way, he said, “I want them to like me.”
Sometimes, the reason a date seems so amazing isn’t because the other person is into you but because he or she wants you to be into them. It’s not necessarily done out of malicious intent, but we all want to come off well, to make a good impression. Sometimes we try too hard, and the end result is that our date thinks we’re enjoying ourselves far more than we actually are.
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